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Embracing Positivity After Loss: My Journey

30 Sunday Nov 2025

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So it’s been a while since I’ve had something positive to say! Like my Bigma said, “If you ain’t got nothing good to say, don’t say nothing at all!” I went with the “don’t say nothing at all part”. Why? There was so much grief in my life. As soon as I thought I was back to me, another loss happened. That last one took some of my soul away! Why? It wasn’t just the loss. It was everything that came with it. I had to recover, readjust, realign, and release all those things! I’ve done all of that. Now I can remember who I am. I know whose I am and understand the purpose GOD has for my life. It’s not about dwelling on the negative. It’s about promoting and embracing the positives. This will make me better and everyone linked to me. So I’m back for the better!

I spent the Thanksgiving holiday with my middle son, Tyrell, his wife, Lanie, and my grandbabies, Charlie and Alex. My other Grandbaby, Halana, also came over, and she even cooked some of the food! That’s growing up! Ty was my sous chef, and he learned some of the recipes that were handed down through the generations. Christina was in NJ with her new Fiancé! Oh yeah, a lot has happened since I’ve been gone. She met the love of her life, and he put that ring on it. LOL I’ll write about it soon. RC was working as usual and didn’t make it. But that’s another story for later. What was important was that I was THANKFUL! I was truly happy spending almost 6 days at the house with the grands, and I didn’t even leave! Enjoying genuine love from the seeds that I created. Waking up every morning to Grandmaaaaaa was heart-warming, and I loved every minute of it. There were so many tasks on my list. I needed to do them, but they didn’t get done. I know I’ll be very busy once I’m back in Florida, trying to get caught up!

This is what brought me back to myself! GOD put us here for a reason. We never know what our purpose is, and if we do discover it, that’s a blessing. I’m still not sure about mine. All I know is that I love my kids, my grandkids, and life, and all that it has to offer. Many people I had to cut off in life. They weren’t making life better. Instead, they caused grief and pain. Once you reach a certain age, your circle gets so small that you can count it on one hand. In my life, I have done so much for so many people and never gotten anything in return. Not that I was ever looking for something, but respect, and they don’t even give you that. But I gladly cut off my losses. When someone looks back and sees all the things I’ve done, it feels good. It validates my effort to make their life better. It shows that I did ok. But when I can’t see a thing they provided to my life, it’s a sign. It’s time to move on without them. (Take that as a lesson) It’s okay to walk away from what or who doesn’t deserve you in their life. God will replace them so fast, you won’t even miss them!

This week has shown me an important lesson. Life is to be lived with the most important people in your life. It is to be shared with them too. As I age gracefully, I have no intentions of dealing with anything or anyone that brings stress to my life. Being over 60 means every morning, your cup is full. You drink it till it’s empty. Then you fill it up again tomorrow because you may not have as many tomorrows as you had yesterday! So I fill my cup with love and laughter. It overflows with happiness. I fill it with the people who make my day better than it was yesterday. I’m back to me, and with more of me, I can give more to you! So look for me to spread all this love I still have to the ones that deserve it! Let me enjoy this holiday season with all this love I have to share!

The “Real Mommie Teresa”

Always and Forever

24 Saturday Feb 2024

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Hi, y’all, I know it’s been a while since I’ve blogged, and I feel I have so much to say, that I haven’t said it yet. I looked at my blog, and I could see my life digressed when it actually progressed. It’s almost like I wrote the least when I needed to write the most. I let depression and loneliness manifest inside of me instead of writing and releasing it. My thoughts all lived in my heart and my head, but I didn’t let them escape. Maybe it’s time to let them escape so I can keep life moving forward. When you lose something so close to you, it takes so much out of you. It drains love from the heart, but blood still runs strong through the heart, which reminds you that there’s still so much blood and love left to give. But it also limits who you share it with because you don’t want that pain again, and you have to protect the peace you have at all costs. You get a sense of peace for the loved ones gone, and you have to be careful who you let into your space that can take that peace you found away.

While doing my Saturday morning chores and listening to my old-school music, I now listen more to words, than music, and understand what we missed back in the day by listening, but not really hearing. Always and Forever by Heatwave came on, and I just stopped and listened; these are the lyrics:

Always and forever, each moment with you

It is just like a dream to me that somehow came true

And I know tomorrow will still be the same

‘Cause we’ve got a life of love that won’t ever change and

Everyday, love me your own special way

Melt all my heart away with a smile

Take time to tell me, you really care

And we’ll share tomorrow, together

I’ll always love you forever, forever

There’ll always be sunshine when I look at you

It’s something I can’t explain, just the things that you do

And if you get lonely, phone me and take

A second to give to me that magic you make and

Everyday, love me your own special way

Melt all my heart away with a smile

Take time to tell me, you really care

And we’ll share tomorrow, together

I’ll always love you ever, ever

Always forever love you

Always forever love you

Always forever love you

Always forever love you

This took me backward and forward at the same time. Always and forever is the love I shared with the people closest to me that I lost. Always and forever, they will be with me, the dreams I had with them, and for them will last always and forever. When I always thought tomorrow would be different, I realized tomorrow would be the same because, with a life of love, it won’t ever change. It’ll change because they aren’t there in the flesh, but they are always there in the spirit. There will always be sunshine when I look at you.. and they show themselves in the clouds with the sun. My heart still melts with the smiles they left me, always and forever will be the same. I thank GOD for the signs that HE shows me to make me feel better. I lost, I loved, and I will always love. I have to choose who to give my love to because each loss breaks the heart a little, but the love you put back strengthens it every time. Now it’s funny as I finish this blog, Luther Vandross comes on saying, ‘It’s alright, it’s alright, it’s alright now.” I take this also as a sign. To get back to blogging and releasing. Someone else needs what I share, they are going through or know what I’ve experienced. Writing makes me happy, so now I focus on happiness and recovery. The mask is slowly coming off and always and forever life improves.

See ya soon,

The Real Mommie Teresa

Starting My Business.. And You Can Too!!

25 Tuesday Oct 2016

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Hello Everyone,

I thought I’d takg-wagone some time today just to talk about how I started Let’s Go Buy A Car and some of the obstacle of being a Business Owner. I know there are sooo many of you all that want to “quit that job” and have no idea how you can make it without “that job”!  I was there too, for so many years! I’ve always wanted to own a business and work for myself, but FEAR of that “paycheck” kept me from moving forward.   But once I was sick and tired, of being sick and tired of “that job” I realized, I was smart, I was tactful, I had lots of hustle, and I was not AFRAID!  What’s the worst thing that could happen? Failure?  But if I didn’t try, I’d never know if I could do it or not.  I knew that on “that job”, I gave 199% of me, and that was for someone else!  If I could give someone else MY 199%, I could give ME 500%!  And that’s what I did! I was a Mom and raised 3 amazing kids on my own, and no “job” could ever be as challenging as that!  So what did I have to lose?   Make sure you follow and keep up with the blog.  Some of my challenges and rewards could possibly help you “get started” to being your own Boss!

I’ll be giving you all tips on the career path in the blogs. So make sure you follow and keep up. And if you are trying to launch a business, just do it!! Don’t keep waiting! Tomorrow isn’t promised, so don’t die and bury your dream!

More coming….

The Real Mommie Teresa

A True Benefit of a Mother… Did you realize what you did??

16 Tuesday Dec 2014

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I’m not the creator of this photo…

As I was talking to Christina the other day about people being around you all the time, it crossed my mind the role of a Mother. We as Moms really never think of what it really means to be a mother, but here’s some food for thought to every Mother.
As a Mother, you actually create a life. You watch and feel that life grow inside your body, and you begin to love that child before they even enter this world. As far as the child, that child literally turns into a human inside of you. They develop arms, legs, lungs, and a heart. They go from a fetus to a human right inside your body. They get to know your inside because it’s their home. As my son said in a poem, “I am one of 3 who has seen your soul. I slept to your heartbeat.” How deep is that? Have you really thought about your child has seen inside your body? They have actually laid next to your heart. They felt when your heart was going fast, and when it was going slow. They knew if something was wrong, by knowing your heart. They have actually seen your soul.
Then one day, it’s time to bring that child into the world. With that, your body is the only thing a child knows. They know you from the inside, and they finally get to see your face. The sound they have heard for 9 months, they can now put a face to it. I know we can all remember that first time we looked into our child’s face, but think of how that child felt then they saw our face for the first time. When they finally got a chance to get a kiss from you and be held in your arms. Then you answer to their every call and cry. You carry them wherever they need to go, you feed them when they are hungry, you change them when they can’t tell you they are wet. You basically become their world. They can’t do anything without you, and you get to a point that you can’t do anything without them. They now become your life.
Then they begin to talk and walk. They begin to tell you they love you. They kiss you, and they show you how much they appreciate you. But you begin to mold them into who they will become in life. That’s a tough job. Just think, this small fetus, that was once in your womb, is now growing up, and it’s your responsibility to assist them and encourage them to become a successful adult. It’s everything you do and teach them to do, that will make them who they are. It’s your job to make sure you teach them to be a respectful person in society, and to make the best out of life.
So it almost seems like you are a God to your child right? But think of how we were created by God. God gave us a gift that we don’t even recognize. That’s the gift to give life. That’s the gift to create, mold, and shape a person into who they will be. When you think of it, it’s a big responsibility because you might not do it right and mess up your child’s life! Are there rules? Nope. Can you master it? Nope. Do you know how they will turn out? Nope. But all you can do is be Mom. Give them the love, the attention, the knowledge they need to learn, and the will to succeed. We all won’t get it right, but we go the major part of it done, by carrying them in our bodies, and making sure we let them see our souls. There is nothing better than being a Mom. There’s no gift anyone can give you that can mean more than birthing a child. So this holiday season, think a little deeper than what a gift means. Think of the person that saw your soul, and slept to your heartbeat. Think of that child that you gave life, and the child that needed your life to live.
And if that doesn’t’ sink in, think of how God gave up HIS only child… For You.

RE: A Message Today

07 Sunday Dec 2014

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I visited a church here in Charlotte today and the Preacher spoke from Psalm 145.  A song of praise of David. (Ironically my lil Cousin David got baptized in Ga today also, congrats David!!).  Well he talked about a divine comeback.  And I’m just reiterating in short-term what I think we all need to hear.  We all pray, and we ask God for what we want.  We wait to see what God says, but most of the time, we don’t hear the answer because it’s not what we want it to be.  When you pray, and listen, then you can hear where God will lead you, but when you pray, and you think that God is giving you what you want, then you really don’t hear Him, you just assume that He will give you what you pray for.  God sometimes says NO.  When He says no, you don’t hear that.  You go out and make that mistake and then you want forgiveness.

When God leads you to unknown territory, He has a purpose for you.  Even though you may not agree, or you may not know what the outcome will be, He does.  When He removes people, cars, money, jewelry, friends, or anything from your life, He’s getting you ready for what HE has for you.  If God ask you to give up all your riches, would you?  If HE did, it would be because He has something greater for you.  I truly believe that.  God will take ALL you have, break you down to nothing, and test your faith.  If you can worship and praise HIM when you have nothing, then He will give you everything.  I know my faith has been challenged, but I believe in HIM and I know that  where He leads me, I will go.  Once you get that understanding of who HE is, and the true power HE has, then you will understand His word, and His works.

So in closing the Preacher said to say goodbye to all the things that are holding you back from your blessings.  Goodbye bad relationships, goodbye abusive relationships, goodbye to abusive behavior, goodbye to struggling, goodbye to being broke, goodbye to anything causing harm.  And stop introducing yourself as who you used to be, such as, I’m a divorcee, I’m a recovering addict, I’m a felon, I’m a struggle mother.  Introduce yourself as who you are now, not who you used to be.  Let the past be the past.  He brought you through it to make you better, not to relive that situation over and over again.   Just as I needed to hear this and I definitely live by this, I wanted to share it with you all.

So be blessed,

LOVE, HUGS AND KISSES

“The Real Mommie Teresa

The Real Mommie Teresa is back!!!

11 Wednesday Jun 2014

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50th CelebrationHello everyone!! Sorry I’ve been MIA for a minute, but I had to regroup and get this computer back on-line. Blogging on an iPad and iPhone..blah blah.. Well I’m back!!

So what’s new in my life? I’ve reached the Big 50 in my life and it’s amazing so far! I had the most amazing 50th Birthday party in Montego Bay, Jamaica, and 17 of my closest friends and family attended. The trip was not only a party, it was a reflection of life. It was a chance for everyone to reflect on where we’ve been, what we’ve been through, and possibly, where life will take us.

As a Mother, I’ve had struggles in life, but I never looked at them as struggles, I just did what I needed to do, to make sure my kids had everything they needed. I never looked at it as a burden because it wasn’t, it was survival. Not only did I want them to survive, I wanted them to be better, stronger, wiser. I wanted them to be high achievers, never quitting, and never giving up. I wanted them to always be grounded. Don’t ever think you are above or better than anyone because life can have you on a high, then drop you on your head! And if you fall, the people below will always be there to catch you. But if you get so high and you forget the people beneath you, you will fall and hit concrete! You can only go as high as your support system. So teaching my kids to be humble was always at the forefront of my wishes.

At my dinner, when everyone had a chance to make a toast, and each person made a comment on my life, that’s when you can see your life and God truly gives you a flashback of what you’ve been through and not even realize it. When I hear people say I’ve been their motivation, and their support, it means so much! When my friends say I’ve never let them down, and they inspire to be like me, only makes me a better person. To see my kids so passionate and emotional when talking about their Mother.. Is nothing less than amazing.

So what I realize is for all I’ve been through, I have an amazing life. Not because of what I have, but because of who I have in it. I love the people in my life. If I didn’t have any money, or material things, I know I’d still be happy! Because nothing can mean more to you than having your family and friends surrounding you with love and respect. I know I have changed some lives, and so many people have changed mine. Only for the better.

I know I’m all over the place today, but basically I’m saying.. I thank God for blessing me. I thank God for my children, and my family. I thank God for blessing everyone to go with me to Jamaica, and continue to bless them with His rewards of life. We laughed, we cried, and we bonded in ways unbelievable. We saw God’s beauty, and we appreciated every drop of rain, every ray of sunshine, and every wave of the ocean. As long as I am a daughter of God, I will always give of myself unselfishly, because God will take care of you when you think you have nothing.

Well I’m back y’all, and I’ll be keeping it as real as I can!!

Love & Kisses
The Real Mommie Teresa

My Valentine’s Day TRUE Miracle

15 Saturday Feb 2014

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There are some things that we can’t keep to ourselves and this is one of them. Only my closest family and friends knew that I was dealing with an unexpected illness. The Dr. was getting ready to schedule gall bladder surgery for me, but we couldn’t get a date because of the snow. He had done the Ultrasound and found sludge in my gallbladder and an inflamed pancreas. The pain was overwhelming, but I can tolerate pain at a high level and still function. Even with that diagnosis, I went to the herb shop and got the strong Kangen water, some probiotics, and some more herbs for gas and bloating. I had prepared all the details as to what I was going to do for surgery. My Cousin was coming to escort me and take me back to her house and help me out. I was on pain meds since last Thursday, and still taking my herbs and consistently praying.

Well yesterday, I woke up feeling really weak and just yucky. I felt a lot of pain, and it had moved to the left side. Now pain on the right, ok..pain on the left??? Time to go to the ER. I called my friend who owns a hair salon under my building because my car was blocked in by 10 inches of ice, and she came to take me to the ER. Once she dropped me off, here I was alone in the ER, not knowing if I was going to have to have emergency surgery or what! I waited to call the kids and family because I didn’t want them to panic since I’m here alone. So once I got in a room, I called them. And yes they panicked as I knew they would. Just pray for Mom, I’ll be ok was my words to them. So I was praying too. I wasn’t really worried, and I felt a sense of peace. You know it was like, God it’s in your hands to heal me. Whatever you see fit, I’m prepared, just take the pain away. They gave me an IV, pain meds and meds for nausea.

Well they did another Ultrasound, drew LOTS of blood. Then they came in and did an EKG- EKG?! Now I’m worried! And took more blood. Now I’m into my 9th hour there and feeling no pain, the Doctor finally comes in and has all the test results. These are his words: “Well Ms Crawford, I’ve run a lot of test. I looked at the heart, the lungs, the gall bladder and the pancreas and I can’t find anything! I looked at your ultrasound from last week and saw the problems, but they are gone! The pancreas is not inflamed and the sludge is gone from the gallbladder.” I said, “AIN’T GOD AMAZING!” (This brings me to tears to just think about it) He gave me some more pain prescriptions and told me to rest a couple of days and discharged me!

Now today as I wake up on my Baby Boy’s 28th birthday, I give God all the glory for His healing! No one can ever tell me He can’t fix it, because HE DID!! So my ultimate Valentines gift was healing from the FATHER who loves me unconditionally!! I hope you all enjoyed yours because I’m waking up today and I don’t feel any pain!! As long as you have Faith, Prayer, and Love, you got all you need!! Thank you Jesus!!

And as always,
LOVE & HUGS
The “Real” Mommie Teresa

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And We Went To Church As Kids Because?…A look back at those days..

17 Sunday Nov 2013

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Since today is Sunday, I’m going to take everyone on a journey of when we were kids, and what Sunday worship was to us.  I hope you aren’t in church reading this.. don’t want you to be laughing to loudly! So y’all see where this is going right?

When we were kids, we went to a baptist church considered in the “country” part of my hometown.  Well our Pastor had several different churches, and our church had church only on the 2nd Sunday. As kids, we knew that the 2nd Sunday was an all day affair. As a matter of fact, we saved our money until the 2nd Sunday. I’ll explain why in a few.  Once we got up and got to church, it was Sunday school, then devotion (now known as worship without all the good singing), then collection, then prayer, then preaching, then collection.  And that was only the 1st sermon!  There was about an hour break, then came session 2 starting all over again! Now as I’m grown and I’ve discovered God, and all his glories, I wondered what were we doing back in the day?!  Well here’s what we were doing…

There were four of us. Me, my sister Nita, and my 2 brothers, Jr. and Rodney.  There was my Mom who took us to church, but Daddy was working or home. So Mom had the tedious task of getting us dressed, fed, and out. Then we took that long (back then) haul to the church.  We were happy to get there, cause we got a chance to see all the “church kids” that we hadn’t seen in a month!  So we all sat together in the back of the church.  Now Sunday school, we participated, but after that.. it was “show time”! Now don’t think I’m crazy, cause I know some of y’all remember these times too!  Well during devotion, the Deacons would go to the front of the church and bring a chair out with them, kneel and pray. And when I say pray…they prayed!! They prayed a long time!! They prayed so long, the would get up sweating!! So we were in the back of the church almost asleep from our head bowed, and eyes closed so long! But during prayer, we would always get caught looking at each other to make sure eyes were closed. If they weren’t, that was a little laugh, and “close your eyes!”  Well then after that Deacon finished, another Deacon did the same thing.  So after about an hour, it was choir time.  There were ups and downs with the country church choir.  When they had a piano player, it was good. Without the piano player.. well.. I’ll just not comment on that!  But then came the Pastor! Now when I say, we had the best preacher in town!!! Man, he could preach!  He knew that bible, and he preached from it. He would jump on top of the pews, jump on top of the Communion table, and wherever he could get on top of!  Now what he was talking about.. we don’t know. We really didn’t pay much attention until he finally got to his “boiling point”, as we called it. That was the time, action was about to begin! (Now this is why we liked church, and the moment we waited for) So we were on look out at the ladies of the church, trying to see who was about to “blow”!  We’d see the knees trembling, the hands in the air, the yes-yes-yes, and then…. there it came!! THE SHOUTING!! (as we called it) The ladies would jump up outta their seat, and just fall back down! They were screaming, and jumping like nothing we ever saw, except at church! The Ushers all ran over with their fans, and tried to control them. But then,  the wigs flew off! Now that was our time!  All us church kids were in the back of the church rolling all over the pews laughing uncontrollably! The dresses would come up and we’d see those stocking rolled up above the knee with a knot in them, and that was even funny! Sometimes, the women would just faint! But there was always an Usher with that little bottle of green stuff to put under thier nose to bring them back! Now I know y’all remember this!  (I’m laughing thinking about us back then) But as soon as one lady would calm down, another one started! So that happened every time we went to church!

Now after the 1st sermon, it was our time! The moment we saved our money to go across the street to the house that sold candy to the kids, and was also a bootleg house! Yes, candy and liquor. So during the “intermission” all the kids, and the Deacons were at the Bootleg Candy house.  We’d see the Deacons take a big gulp outta the plastic cups, and make that frown..(“y’all know that frown right..lol) So after we all had our fix.. we would all go back to the church for the 2nd sermon. (And I wondered why those Deacons were sweating so bad) And it started all over again, round 2!

Ok, so I hope you got some humor from that, but now I’m looking back and realizing what was really happening. That preacher knew his words, and the Holy Spirit was all over that church. The things those women endured in thier lives, that was their outlet.
That was the time for their spirit to be cleansed, and for the Holy Spirit to get in them, and let out their frustrations. We had no idea! As kids, we went to church because “that was what you were supposed to do.”  We didn’t know the bible, we didn’t understand the real meaning of God.  We did all the church stuff, but we didn’t “learn”.  As an adult when I got to my own worship point in life, I realized there was so much I didn’t know.  I was never really taught the bible, and what it meant. So once I discovered that, it opened my eyes to a whole new life! I had so much to learn.  And it wasn’t only me, it was all of us. Maybe some of you who are reading this too!  I remember me and Jr were at a funeral, and the preacher said, “open your bible to the book of Job (pronounced Jobe),and I did. Jr looked and me and said, “that’s job, he said Jobe”! lol.. So I gave him that “boy you don’t know nothing about the bible look!’ But that let me know, that he was just like I had been. All that time in the church, but didn’t know a thing.

Well this story could go on, and on, but I just wanted to share that in life, you learn and you grow.  I’m so glad I went through what I went through as a child, to realize what God was doing back in the day. Also to appreciate his Glory more today. Once I discovered HIM and realized how HE died to save our souls from the sins we committed, I had every reason in the world to worship HIM and to praise HIM. Church has gotten so much better about teaching our children now, so they won’t be adults discovering who God is.

I thank God for you all that share my blog, and I pray for all of you each and every day. I pray blessing and prosperity over your life and the life of anyone in your paths. Thank you for being a part of my life, and I promise to always be uplifting, positive, and keep a smile on your face somewhere!

Love and Hugs..

The “Real” Mommie Teresa