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Ladies, Don’t Be Afraid to be CONFIDENT…

23 Friday Jan 2015

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Michelle-FlexingAs I was walking thru the dealership yesterday, a brother stopped me and said, “let me tell you what I see in you?” So I’m all ears, like what? He says, “you have the most confident walk of any woman I’ve seen. You seem to be fearless, confident, and not a care in the world, and happy”! Then he said, “I be all black men run when they see you?!” So now that he’s gotten my attention, I was like “really, and why do you think that is? Well he said “Most black men run from women who are confident and we see that as too much of a challenge, or high-maintenance. So most black men will not talk to you.”

Well now to me.. “Yes I’m confident, happy, and not afraid. I show it in my walk, my talk, my smile and my style. I’ll never dumb down for a man, or a job or anything else in life! I also won’t accept what isn’t right for me. If a man is intimidated, then that only means he’s not ready for me anyway. And no it’s not cocky, it’s confident. What you don’t see is my history. I’m independent by “situation” not by choice. My job as a Mom, (ie LEADER) was to be confident, happy, and strong. That way my children will lead by example. My job was to buy it, cook it, and clean it and take care of it. “It” meaning everything. All that was MY situation, not my choice. Situation is because of mistakes “I” made in life.

What I, or hopefully no woman will do is settled for someone who does not deserve them. When you work hard, and you have lived your life, then don’t accept anything or anyone that can’t accept you. God didn’t take you through everything you went thru to let you end up with someone who’s not worthy of you. Men, I’m not saying all “black” men can’t handle a strong woman. We as women WANT you to be the man! We want you to be the head of the household, but we also want you to know that WE GOT YOUR BACK! We are strong because that’s our nature. I was never taught to be submissive and it’s not a trait I can pretend to have. I am who I am, and I’m ok with it. But life lesson, walk like a boss, talk like a boss, think like a boss!! Bosses attract Bosses!! Find your Boss!!

Hopefully no feathers are ruffled, but I just wanted to put it out there!

Love and Hugs

“The Real Mommie Teresa”

The Space Between Then and Now

21 Wednesday Jan 2015

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IMG_4601Today I created this picture with my “artistic” self for the kids. And it’s amazing how you do something then you look back at it and you “see it”. In this picture, it reminded me of the past. It also let me see that the most important part of this picture is the space between the pictures. That space reminds me of the struggles I had being a single parent responsible for the lives of these children. It reminded me of the hard work, the tears, the fears, and the happiness. It reminded me of what it took to get them from ages 1,3 and 5- to ages 26, 28 and 30. 25 Years is in that space!! It brought laughter thinking about the funny things they did and said, and it brought a sense of pride when I think of their accomplishments. The football games, basketball games, cheerleading events, and the house full of kids all the time. The moments in the space between the pictures are the moments that brought them to where they are today.

So today, I say THANK YOU GOD for the space! Today I feel like you took me through all you did so I can look back and say, Wow! As parents, remember these times. Remember that the lives of those kids are in your hands. It’s the greatest feeling in the world to see them grow and achieve their dreams. So live life like it’ll be over tomorrow, laugh like the funny story never ends, and love like you’ll never see anyone tomorrow!

Love & Hugs

“The Real Mommie Teresa”

A True Benefit of a Mother… Did you realize what you did??

16 Tuesday Dec 2014

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As I was talking to Christina the other day about people being around you all the time, it crossed my mind the role of a Mother. We as Moms really never think of what it really means to be a mother, but here’s some food for thought to every Mother.
As a Mother, you actually create a life. You watch and feel that life grow inside your body, and you begin to love that child before they even enter this world. As far as the child, that child literally turns into a human inside of you. They develop arms, legs, lungs, and a heart. They go from a fetus to a human right inside your body. They get to know your inside because it’s their home. As my son said in a poem, “I am one of 3 who has seen your soul. I slept to your heartbeat.” How deep is that? Have you really thought about your child has seen inside your body? They have actually laid next to your heart. They felt when your heart was going fast, and when it was going slow. They knew if something was wrong, by knowing your heart. They have actually seen your soul.
Then one day, it’s time to bring that child into the world. With that, your body is the only thing a child knows. They know you from the inside, and they finally get to see your face. The sound they have heard for 9 months, they can now put a face to it. I know we can all remember that first time we looked into our child’s face, but think of how that child felt then they saw our face for the first time. When they finally got a chance to get a kiss from you and be held in your arms. Then you answer to their every call and cry. You carry them wherever they need to go, you feed them when they are hungry, you change them when they can’t tell you they are wet. You basically become their world. They can’t do anything without you, and you get to a point that you can’t do anything without them. They now become your life.
Then they begin to talk and walk. They begin to tell you they love you. They kiss you, and they show you how much they appreciate you. But you begin to mold them into who they will become in life. That’s a tough job. Just think, this small fetus, that was once in your womb, is now growing up, and it’s your responsibility to assist them and encourage them to become a successful adult. It’s everything you do and teach them to do, that will make them who they are. It’s your job to make sure you teach them to be a respectful person in society, and to make the best out of life.
So it almost seems like you are a God to your child right? But think of how we were created by God. God gave us a gift that we don’t even recognize. That’s the gift to give life. That’s the gift to create, mold, and shape a person into who they will be. When you think of it, it’s a big responsibility because you might not do it right and mess up your child’s life! Are there rules? Nope. Can you master it? Nope. Do you know how they will turn out? Nope. But all you can do is be Mom. Give them the love, the attention, the knowledge they need to learn, and the will to succeed. We all won’t get it right, but we go the major part of it done, by carrying them in our bodies, and making sure we let them see our souls. There is nothing better than being a Mom. There’s no gift anyone can give you that can mean more than birthing a child. So this holiday season, think a little deeper than what a gift means. Think of the person that saw your soul, and slept to your heartbeat. Think of that child that you gave life, and the child that needed your life to live.
And if that doesn’t’ sink in, think of how God gave up HIS only child… For You.

Who’s Loving You?

23 Sunday Nov 2014

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IMG_3751-1.JPGHello Everyone!! I’ve missed y’all and I hope you all have missed me too! Well there’s been so many things going on in my life and so many changes every day! I’m going to update you all, but it’ll have to be in a few blogs.. Don’t want to write the book, but I probably could with the whirlwind that goes on in my life! But as I was meditating this morning, I had a revelation that I had to share. I know God shows me things that HE wants me to share, and that’s why HE gave me the gift of communication.

This morning as I was having breakfast, I was just reminiscing on where I’ve been in life and all that i’ve been through. I looked through my old pictures, and I looked at my new pictures. There was a big difference in my old and new pictures. The big difference was that in my old pictures, they were full of friends, family, house parties I had, events I planned. In my new pictures, it was only me. Then I realized what God was saying to me. HE was letting me know that now I live for me and Him. I thought my life was full when I made everyone else happy. I went out of my way to make sure anyone around me was happy. I threw the best parties, I had the best Sunday dinners, I did everything extra to make everyone else happy. If anyone needed me, I was there in a heartbeat! I gave all of me to everyone accept me. When I moved to Charlotte, I was lonely because I was missing my friends and my family. I didn’t have all those people around me everyday to make “them” happy. I questioned God when I got here as to why HE was sending me here all alone. Everytime I had a small doubt that something wouldn’t work it, it did, and in a big way! It was like God was making sure everything went perfect to keep me here. So finally I got used to being alone, then I discovered who I was. I realized I liked serenity. I like peace and quiet. I like cooking for “me”. I like taking me out, and doing what I like to do. So today, I had as Oprah would say, “an a-ha moment.”

Today I realized that God moved me away from everyone, because He knew that I would never leave my friends and family. He knew that when anyone called and needed me, I’d stop doing everything I wanted to do, to make sure they were ok. He knew I wouldn’t take care of me, for taking care of everyone else. So HE knew that HE had to remove me from the equation so HE could give me what I deserved and what HE had in store for me. God had to move me, to get all the people out of my life that were hindering me from receiving HIS blessings. The people that I cared so much for, HE showed me that they were never about me, it was about what I was to them. So when I had nothing to offer them, they were gone. It’s a little tough when you realize that you’ve spent so much of your life taking care of everyone, being everything to everybody, then you discover you really didn’t have anybody. The people that remained true are the ones that God wants you to focus your attention on. I know we all suffer with trying to take care of everyone, but what are you doing to yourself? Who’s loving you?

So today I know who I am! It took me 50 years to learn and discover this. I know God has so much in store for me now that I can see HiM and I have the time to give HIM all of me! He removed the distractions from my life. The ones HE didn’t remove, HE opened my eyes to realize they weren’t in my corner, or they didn’t care about me, and they weren’t going in the direction HE was guiding me. I say this to let someone know, that it’s ok for people to be removed from your life. God has to remove them so you can be ready for what HE is about to do for you. If you aren’t ready for something, God will not give it to you. If you have people in your life that will hinder you from receiving God’s blessings, HE will remove them. Once you are free from the bondage of the so-called friends, you will see the friends and family that was, and always will be there for you. And in my heart, I still love everyone who crossed my path. Even if God removed them, I truly love people from the heart, and I’m sure they all knew that. I may cut them from my life, but I know I will always hold a piece of them because they were once important to me, and that you can’t lose. It’s ok, to still care about them, but also know they weren’t meant to go where you are going.

Why do I share this? Because being the “Real Mommie Teresa” I want to give this to you all before you get old, waste a lot of time trying to please other people while neglecting yourself. Once my children were grown, that’s when I should have started living for me. But it’s really hard to take care of “you”, when all your life, you’ve been the nurturer. Discover who you are, take some time away from everyone to see who really matters. Stop being the Go To person. Ask God what it is HE has for you, and if you are ready, He’ll show you. So who’s loving me? I AM, and I love loving me!

I’M BACK!!!
Hugs and Love
“THE REAL MOMMIE TERESA”

The Real Mommie Teresa is back!!!

11 Wednesday Jun 2014

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50th CelebrationHello everyone!! Sorry I’ve been MIA for a minute, but I had to regroup and get this computer back on-line. Blogging on an iPad and iPhone..blah blah.. Well I’m back!!

So what’s new in my life? I’ve reached the Big 50 in my life and it’s amazing so far! I had the most amazing 50th Birthday party in Montego Bay, Jamaica, and 17 of my closest friends and family attended. The trip was not only a party, it was a reflection of life. It was a chance for everyone to reflect on where we’ve been, what we’ve been through, and possibly, where life will take us.

As a Mother, I’ve had struggles in life, but I never looked at them as struggles, I just did what I needed to do, to make sure my kids had everything they needed. I never looked at it as a burden because it wasn’t, it was survival. Not only did I want them to survive, I wanted them to be better, stronger, wiser. I wanted them to be high achievers, never quitting, and never giving up. I wanted them to always be grounded. Don’t ever think you are above or better than anyone because life can have you on a high, then drop you on your head! And if you fall, the people below will always be there to catch you. But if you get so high and you forget the people beneath you, you will fall and hit concrete! You can only go as high as your support system. So teaching my kids to be humble was always at the forefront of my wishes.

At my dinner, when everyone had a chance to make a toast, and each person made a comment on my life, that’s when you can see your life and God truly gives you a flashback of what you’ve been through and not even realize it. When I hear people say I’ve been their motivation, and their support, it means so much! When my friends say I’ve never let them down, and they inspire to be like me, only makes me a better person. To see my kids so passionate and emotional when talking about their Mother.. Is nothing less than amazing.

So what I realize is for all I’ve been through, I have an amazing life. Not because of what I have, but because of who I have in it. I love the people in my life. If I didn’t have any money, or material things, I know I’d still be happy! Because nothing can mean more to you than having your family and friends surrounding you with love and respect. I know I have changed some lives, and so many people have changed mine. Only for the better.

I know I’m all over the place today, but basically I’m saying.. I thank God for blessing me. I thank God for my children, and my family. I thank God for blessing everyone to go with me to Jamaica, and continue to bless them with His rewards of life. We laughed, we cried, and we bonded in ways unbelievable. We saw God’s beauty, and we appreciated every drop of rain, every ray of sunshine, and every wave of the ocean. As long as I am a daughter of God, I will always give of myself unselfishly, because God will take care of you when you think you have nothing.

Well I’m back y’all, and I’ll be keeping it as real as I can!!

Love & Kisses
The Real Mommie Teresa

Weather The Storm Today

21 Friday Feb 2014

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I seem to always talk about storms of life. I guess because I’ve been through so many of them, I am a true testimony. Webster says the definition of storm is: a disturbance of the atmosphere. Now think about that. When you have a disturbance in your life, here comes the storm. Let’s say there is a financial crisis. You have no money..storm, You lose your job..storm.. You lose a family member.. storm, you lose your husband/wife/child..storm, you lose you car..storm. I’m sure you get the point. The only time there isn’t a storm, is if you lose your life! So that means that through EVERY storm, there is a blue sky. What’s worse than going through a storm, is not surviving a storm. If you don’t survive the storm, then your storms are over!

To break all this down, God puts us through turmoil in our lives to make us stronger. Just like he makes it rain, to clean up the world, make the grass greener, and a host of other things. Without rain, just think how the the world will be. The same reason we have storms in our life.. to clean us up. To take us through a cleansing so we can be a little bit better. Just think.. every storm you go through, makes you a little bit stronger. I thank God every day for storms of life. It’s not the storms that I appreciate, it’s the calmness after the storm.

Think about your storms. If you write them down, then look at where you are now compared to where you were then, you’d realize how that storm actually saved you. Life is not complicated. Sometimes we wonder too much on what shoulda, coulda, woulda been, when in reality, everything that ever happened to you was pre-destined. It was supposed to happen. You were supposed to go through what you went through to get to where you are today.

This morning before I woke, I heard the birds chirping loud! I guess they were telling me to get ready and beat that storm! lol

So today in the midst of this storm, Thank God for being able to see you through it. In a few hours, the sun will be so bright and so will your life. Just weather this storm, and the sun will also shine on you!
Have an awesome and blessed day!
Hug and Kisses
The “Real” Mommie Teresa

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Reflection of Snow Cream…

13 Thursday Feb 2014

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As I sit and watch the snow, this took me back to over 40+ years ago.  I can’t remember how old I was, but I know I was a little kid.  You know how you have some of the fondest memories of a kid because they were special?  Well this is one that came to me from just watching the snow.

I remember we were little.  We were living in the projects in Eatonton.  I don’t know how long we lived there but I remember there was a big  snow storm.  I think that our first time even seeing snow.  I remember the amazing moment we went outside and saw it.  But what I remember the most is my Mom bringing some snow in, adding  some milk and sugar to it, and gave all of us a bowl full.  We had the “magic” snow cream!  We were excited, happy, and loving our new found desert!

So now that I’m grown, I really wonder if that was snow cream or ice cream? LOL.. It didn’t matter then because we were young, naïve and happy!  Will snow even cream with milk and sugar?  And with all the toxins that are in the world, how healthy is it to eat snow?  Who cared!  All I know is that was one of the most simple, happiest times in life that I shared with my Mom, sister and brothers!

We have complicated life so much!  Where are those times that kids can be kids and still believe? The internet helps us a lot, but it sure did kill the super heroes and the dreams.  Now kids want to Google everything you say! I miss those times!  I’m so glad my kids got a chance to experience “childhood”.  They have the memories that I have because regardless of what society says, we had dreams, love, and moments that we can cherish. 

So if you have small kids, take the time to make some snow cream!  If I’m almost 50 and I can remember that day, just think about the memories you can leave them, and now you can take pictures, post them to the internet and have them forever.  So enjoy this work of God, and cherish every moment of it! And be safe!

Kisses & Hugs

The “REAL” Mommie Teresa

Money, “The Root of Evil”..

05 Sunday Jan 2014

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This topic comes from a conversation I had with someone very close to me.  People think when you have money, it can make you happy, it can solve problems, and you don’t need anyone “if” you have money.  Do you remember these quotes?  “Money is the root of all evil”; “more money, more problems”?  Those are true statements.  Someone is probably thinking.. “Well that ain’t me!  Give me money!!”

My thoughts go back to a time I was living in Eatonton.  Renting a house for a little of nothing, and having a house full of friends.  We didn’t have a lot of money, but we had enough for everyone to pitch in, buy a bottle of Crown Royal, fill up the gas tank, and ride all day!  Now those were the best times ever!  I then think about the time I had money, had a party, invited everyone who normally didn’t bring anything.  I did all the work, all the entertainment, and all the cleaning, while they were all gone.  Then think about the times you go out and spend hundreds of dollars hanging out with people who really don’t care about you, only that you are buying!  Where was the love?   Even when you have money and visit your hometown, you have to buy everything, do everything, pay everyone’s bills, and then leave empty handed.  Where’s the love?

The times you know people love you, is the times you have nothing!  More money, more problems.  What does that mean?  It doesn’t mean problems for you, it means you are now in charge of everyone else’s problems.  If you have money, everyone with a problem, looks to you as their saving grace.  You are supposed to be the one to bail everyone out of their situations that they put themselves in.  Only because you have money.  If you didn’t have money, then you’d be able to listen and to talk them thru their situation and give them advice.

Look at all those lottery winners who now have nothing! Why, because they probably were the saving grace for so many other people.  How many people do you think are lonely because they have money?  Probably over 80% of them?  Why? Because now, it’s not about love, and friendship, it’s about money.  If you think you have sincere friends, and you have money.. tell them you’re broke and see if they are still around!

Family is all we have these days.  When you are from a close family, do all you can to stay close.  Don’t  let the evilness of greed and money tear you apart! When I can sit and spend time with my family, my cousins, it means more to me than any amount of money I can have.  I know how to be broke, and I know how to have money, I’ve been thru both of them.  And its ashamed to say, that the times I didn’t have anything, were the best times of my life.

So people, don’t get caught up trying to be like the Jones.. They probably ain’t happy!  Don’t try to impress someone with something that you can’t afford.   Live within your means, and you will go a long way.  If you can’t afford designer, why keep making the designers “richer” and you “poorer”.   When I say, live, love and laugh, that’s what I mean.  Those are the days that you will always remember.

Love and Hugs

The “Real” Mommie” Teresa

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