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Embracing Positivity After Loss: My Journey

30 Sunday Nov 2025

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blessing, children, death, faith, family, God, grief, happiness, life, Love, mental-health, Prayer

So it’s been a while since I’ve had something positive to say! Like my Bigma said, “If you ain’t got nothing good to say, don’t say nothing at all!” I went with the “don’t say nothing at all part”. Why? There was so much grief in my life. As soon as I thought I was back to me, another loss happened. That last one took some of my soul away! Why? It wasn’t just the loss. It was everything that came with it. I had to recover, readjust, realign, and release all those things! I’ve done all of that. Now I can remember who I am. I know whose I am and understand the purpose GOD has for my life. It’s not about dwelling on the negative. It’s about promoting and embracing the positives. This will make me better and everyone linked to me. So I’m back for the better!

I spent the Thanksgiving holiday with my middle son, Tyrell, his wife, Lanie, and my grandbabies, Charlie and Alex. My other Grandbaby, Halana, also came over, and she even cooked some of the food! That’s growing up! Ty was my sous chef, and he learned some of the recipes that were handed down through the generations. Christina was in NJ with her new Fiancé! Oh yeah, a lot has happened since I’ve been gone. She met the love of her life, and he put that ring on it. LOL I’ll write about it soon. RC was working as usual and didn’t make it. But that’s another story for later. What was important was that I was THANKFUL! I was truly happy spending almost 6 days at the house with the grands, and I didn’t even leave! Enjoying genuine love from the seeds that I created. Waking up every morning to Grandmaaaaaa was heart-warming, and I loved every minute of it. There were so many tasks on my list. I needed to do them, but they didn’t get done. I know I’ll be very busy once I’m back in Florida, trying to get caught up!

This is what brought me back to myself! GOD put us here for a reason. We never know what our purpose is, and if we do discover it, that’s a blessing. I’m still not sure about mine. All I know is that I love my kids, my grandkids, and life, and all that it has to offer. Many people I had to cut off in life. They weren’t making life better. Instead, they caused grief and pain. Once you reach a certain age, your circle gets so small that you can count it on one hand. In my life, I have done so much for so many people and never gotten anything in return. Not that I was ever looking for something, but respect, and they don’t even give you that. But I gladly cut off my losses. When someone looks back and sees all the things I’ve done, it feels good. It validates my effort to make their life better. It shows that I did ok. But when I can’t see a thing they provided to my life, it’s a sign. It’s time to move on without them. (Take that as a lesson) It’s okay to walk away from what or who doesn’t deserve you in their life. God will replace them so fast, you won’t even miss them!

This week has shown me an important lesson. Life is to be lived with the most important people in your life. It is to be shared with them too. As I age gracefully, I have no intentions of dealing with anything or anyone that brings stress to my life. Being over 60 means every morning, your cup is full. You drink it till it’s empty. Then you fill it up again tomorrow because you may not have as many tomorrows as you had yesterday! So I fill my cup with love and laughter. It overflows with happiness. I fill it with the people who make my day better than it was yesterday. I’m back to me, and with more of me, I can give more to you! So look for me to spread all this love I still have to the ones that deserve it! Let me enjoy this holiday season with all this love I have to share!

The “Real Mommie Teresa”

Always and Forever

24 Saturday Feb 2024

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faith, family, God, grief, Growth. wisdom, happiness, joy, life, Love, peace, poem, poetry, positivity, Prayer, trust

Hi, y’all, I know it’s been a while since I’ve blogged, and I feel I have so much to say, that I haven’t said it yet. I looked at my blog, and I could see my life digressed when it actually progressed. It’s almost like I wrote the least when I needed to write the most. I let depression and loneliness manifest inside of me instead of writing and releasing it. My thoughts all lived in my heart and my head, but I didn’t let them escape. Maybe it’s time to let them escape so I can keep life moving forward. When you lose something so close to you, it takes so much out of you. It drains love from the heart, but blood still runs strong through the heart, which reminds you that there’s still so much blood and love left to give. But it also limits who you share it with because you don’t want that pain again, and you have to protect the peace you have at all costs. You get a sense of peace for the loved ones gone, and you have to be careful who you let into your space that can take that peace you found away.

While doing my Saturday morning chores and listening to my old-school music, I now listen more to words, than music, and understand what we missed back in the day by listening, but not really hearing. Always and Forever by Heatwave came on, and I just stopped and listened; these are the lyrics:

Always and forever, each moment with you

It is just like a dream to me that somehow came true

And I know tomorrow will still be the same

‘Cause we’ve got a life of love that won’t ever change and

Everyday, love me your own special way

Melt all my heart away with a smile

Take time to tell me, you really care

And we’ll share tomorrow, together

I’ll always love you forever, forever

There’ll always be sunshine when I look at you

It’s something I can’t explain, just the things that you do

And if you get lonely, phone me and take

A second to give to me that magic you make and

Everyday, love me your own special way

Melt all my heart away with a smile

Take time to tell me, you really care

And we’ll share tomorrow, together

I’ll always love you ever, ever

Always forever love you

Always forever love you

Always forever love you

Always forever love you

This took me backward and forward at the same time. Always and forever is the love I shared with the people closest to me that I lost. Always and forever, they will be with me, the dreams I had with them, and for them will last always and forever. When I always thought tomorrow would be different, I realized tomorrow would be the same because, with a life of love, it won’t ever change. It’ll change because they aren’t there in the flesh, but they are always there in the spirit. There will always be sunshine when I look at you.. and they show themselves in the clouds with the sun. My heart still melts with the smiles they left me, always and forever will be the same. I thank GOD for the signs that HE shows me to make me feel better. I lost, I loved, and I will always love. I have to choose who to give my love to because each loss breaks the heart a little, but the love you put back strengthens it every time. Now it’s funny as I finish this blog, Luther Vandross comes on saying, ‘It’s alright, it’s alright, it’s alright now.” I take this also as a sign. To get back to blogging and releasing. Someone else needs what I share, they are going through or know what I’ve experienced. Writing makes me happy, so now I focus on happiness and recovery. The mask is slowly coming off and always and forever life improves.

See ya soon,

The Real Mommie Teresa

What is “Your” Purpose?

11 Monday Jul 2016

Posted by Teresa in Faith, Happy, Life, Mothers, Uncategorized, Uplifting

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ambition, children, dreams, faith, family, goals, God, growth, happiness, laugh, live, Love, purpose, reality

Lately I’ve had to ask myself over and over again.. what is my dream for me? And I can’t seem to come up with an answer.  Does anyone else feel that way?  Do you all realize that our dreams were for our children?  Our dreams were for the future of our children and we never made dreams for ourselves.  My whole life revolved around making their dreams come true.  Not once did I ever dream of what I wanted.  Now that I’m in a position to truly try to live my dreams, I don’t know what they are.  The dreams that I had, aren’t as meaningful now because the kids are adults, and the things I wished for them, are almost complete.  So now I’m on a “make a dream list” for me.  And I think you all should think of that too.  Think of what it is you would dream of for yourself.  Write it down, and then you’ll have a goal to work toward.  We have to live life for more than working for the pleasure of others.  I know I’m a fine one to talk, because that’s what makes me happy, but it doesn’t complete me.  So all my Baby Boomers.. we are over the 50 mark, and we have to live out our dreams now!  What’s your dream?

Love and Hugs,

“The Real Mommie Teresa”

A Happy Place

08 Tuesday Dec 2015

Posted by Teresa in Faith, Happy, Jobs, Life, Uncategorized, Uplifting

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fear, happiness, happy, jobs, Love, peace, Relationships

  Have you ever been at a point in life where you feel like life is just great? It’s funny when you’re happy, and people can see the happiness in you. When you lose your joy, it shows in everything you do. The way you talk, walk, dress, and act toward other people.  When you’re not happy, you attract people to you who are in a place where you are. When you’re in a happy place, you attract happy people. It’s strange how that works out, and how the body can show emotions. People want to be around someone who has really good vibes and are emotionally stable. So I challenge you to take a few pictures of yourself on a day you are really happy, then look back at a day you weren’t happy and see if you can see the happiness radiate from within yourself. 

God gave us all an internal light to shine so others can see it. It draws people to you. It lets them know, you’re one of the chosen ones, and God has you. So find your light and let it shine. When you find your happy place, no one and nothing can really steal your joy. God has you and He has control.  I have the attitude of “won’t He do it”!  And I ain’t going to let no one steal my joy! 

Today I pledge, I’m done with drama. If it doesn’t make ME happy, I’m not draining my emotions. The feelings of happiness gives you energy. It doesn’t drain you. If it’s takes negative energy…lose me with it!! 😁.  Being happy is too easy. There’s a simple solution. If it doesn’t make you happy.. Let it go.  See if your happiness returns. If it does, then that problem was stealing your joy. 

Hugs and love,

The Real Mother Teresa

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RE: A Message Today

07 Sunday Dec 2014

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abuse, blessing, children, church, confidence, divorce, drug abuse, faith, family, fear, freedom, future, God, happiness, Holy Spirit, life, marriage, money, Prayer

I visited a church here in Charlotte today and the Preacher spoke from Psalm 145.  A song of praise of David. (Ironically my lil Cousin David got baptized in Ga today also, congrats David!!).  Well he talked about a divine comeback.  And I’m just reiterating in short-term what I think we all need to hear.  We all pray, and we ask God for what we want.  We wait to see what God says, but most of the time, we don’t hear the answer because it’s not what we want it to be.  When you pray, and listen, then you can hear where God will lead you, but when you pray, and you think that God is giving you what you want, then you really don’t hear Him, you just assume that He will give you what you pray for.  God sometimes says NO.  When He says no, you don’t hear that.  You go out and make that mistake and then you want forgiveness.

When God leads you to unknown territory, He has a purpose for you.  Even though you may not agree, or you may not know what the outcome will be, He does.  When He removes people, cars, money, jewelry, friends, or anything from your life, He’s getting you ready for what HE has for you.  If God ask you to give up all your riches, would you?  If HE did, it would be because He has something greater for you.  I truly believe that.  God will take ALL you have, break you down to nothing, and test your faith.  If you can worship and praise HIM when you have nothing, then He will give you everything.  I know my faith has been challenged, but I believe in HIM and I know that  where He leads me, I will go.  Once you get that understanding of who HE is, and the true power HE has, then you will understand His word, and His works.

So in closing the Preacher said to say goodbye to all the things that are holding you back from your blessings.  Goodbye bad relationships, goodbye abusive relationships, goodbye to abusive behavior, goodbye to struggling, goodbye to being broke, goodbye to anything causing harm.  And stop introducing yourself as who you used to be, such as, I’m a divorcee, I’m a recovering addict, I’m a felon, I’m a struggle mother.  Introduce yourself as who you are now, not who you used to be.  Let the past be the past.  He brought you through it to make you better, not to relive that situation over and over again.   Just as I needed to hear this and I definitely live by this, I wanted to share it with you all.

So be blessed,

LOVE, HUGS AND KISSES

“The Real Mommie Teresa

Celebrate your Children

25 Tuesday Nov 2014

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IMG_3782.PNGIn the midst of the verdict last night, it saddened me to know that there was not enough evidence to even ACCUSE that cop of killing a child. A child is dead, is that not evidence? A judge and jury should make that determination. I just feel so sorry for any parent that has to go through losing a child by any means.

After watching the verdict and with so much emotion, my Baby Girl and I had a FaceTime date. With her being in NY and me here in CLT, it’s hard to celebrate special occasions. But a Mom will find a way! Christina said this year she was going to be “Fearless”! And fearless she is. She started her new position at WBLS and she’s doing an amazing job!! Landed her account from start to finish by being “Christina”! I salute you today Baby Girl! On our FT date, we shared a toast and I was the toaster! As I told her how proud I was of her, I watched the tears roll down her cheeks. I know they were tears of fulfillment for being fearless, accomplishment for doing a job well, pride, for making MOMMIE proud, and hurt for what we had just witnessed on TV.

With all the emotions going on between the both of us, point is..celebrate the life your child leads!! Celebrate everything! Our children need us. If they are 3 or 33 or 53. Let them know you are proud, give them encouragement. Be their biggest fan. And when you do all you can, you just stand. Stand and watch the tears of joy you and them will shed for life.
Don’t let a moment pass where they don’t feel you appreciate the things they do!!

And kids, remember…everything you do, every action, every thought, your parents worry about. We want to keep you safe, we want you to go home every night, we want you to grow up and give us Grandchildren, and most of all, we want to see you alive and living!! I celebrate today as some parents grieve. And parents, always know, that we can easily be doing either. Just love your children, support them and do all you can for them. It never goes unappreciated!!
Have a blessed day!!!
Love and Hugs
“The Real Mommie Teresa”

The Real Mommie Teresa is back!!!

11 Wednesday Jun 2014

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50th CelebrationHello everyone!! Sorry I’ve been MIA for a minute, but I had to regroup and get this computer back on-line. Blogging on an iPad and iPhone..blah blah.. Well I’m back!!

So what’s new in my life? I’ve reached the Big 50 in my life and it’s amazing so far! I had the most amazing 50th Birthday party in Montego Bay, Jamaica, and 17 of my closest friends and family attended. The trip was not only a party, it was a reflection of life. It was a chance for everyone to reflect on where we’ve been, what we’ve been through, and possibly, where life will take us.

As a Mother, I’ve had struggles in life, but I never looked at them as struggles, I just did what I needed to do, to make sure my kids had everything they needed. I never looked at it as a burden because it wasn’t, it was survival. Not only did I want them to survive, I wanted them to be better, stronger, wiser. I wanted them to be high achievers, never quitting, and never giving up. I wanted them to always be grounded. Don’t ever think you are above or better than anyone because life can have you on a high, then drop you on your head! And if you fall, the people below will always be there to catch you. But if you get so high and you forget the people beneath you, you will fall and hit concrete! You can only go as high as your support system. So teaching my kids to be humble was always at the forefront of my wishes.

At my dinner, when everyone had a chance to make a toast, and each person made a comment on my life, that’s when you can see your life and God truly gives you a flashback of what you’ve been through and not even realize it. When I hear people say I’ve been their motivation, and their support, it means so much! When my friends say I’ve never let them down, and they inspire to be like me, only makes me a better person. To see my kids so passionate and emotional when talking about their Mother.. Is nothing less than amazing.

So what I realize is for all I’ve been through, I have an amazing life. Not because of what I have, but because of who I have in it. I love the people in my life. If I didn’t have any money, or material things, I know I’d still be happy! Because nothing can mean more to you than having your family and friends surrounding you with love and respect. I know I have changed some lives, and so many people have changed mine. Only for the better.

I know I’m all over the place today, but basically I’m saying.. I thank God for blessing me. I thank God for my children, and my family. I thank God for blessing everyone to go with me to Jamaica, and continue to bless them with His rewards of life. We laughed, we cried, and we bonded in ways unbelievable. We saw God’s beauty, and we appreciated every drop of rain, every ray of sunshine, and every wave of the ocean. As long as I am a daughter of God, I will always give of myself unselfishly, because God will take care of you when you think you have nothing.

Well I’m back y’all, and I’ll be keeping it as real as I can!!

Love & Kisses
The Real Mommie Teresa

Weather The Storm Today

21 Friday Feb 2014

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I seem to always talk about storms of life. I guess because I’ve been through so many of them, I am a true testimony. Webster says the definition of storm is: a disturbance of the atmosphere. Now think about that. When you have a disturbance in your life, here comes the storm. Let’s say there is a financial crisis. You have no money..storm, You lose your job..storm.. You lose a family member.. storm, you lose your husband/wife/child..storm, you lose you car..storm. I’m sure you get the point. The only time there isn’t a storm, is if you lose your life! So that means that through EVERY storm, there is a blue sky. What’s worse than going through a storm, is not surviving a storm. If you don’t survive the storm, then your storms are over!

To break all this down, God puts us through turmoil in our lives to make us stronger. Just like he makes it rain, to clean up the world, make the grass greener, and a host of other things. Without rain, just think how the the world will be. The same reason we have storms in our life.. to clean us up. To take us through a cleansing so we can be a little bit better. Just think.. every storm you go through, makes you a little bit stronger. I thank God every day for storms of life. It’s not the storms that I appreciate, it’s the calmness after the storm.

Think about your storms. If you write them down, then look at where you are now compared to where you were then, you’d realize how that storm actually saved you. Life is not complicated. Sometimes we wonder too much on what shoulda, coulda, woulda been, when in reality, everything that ever happened to you was pre-destined. It was supposed to happen. You were supposed to go through what you went through to get to where you are today.

This morning before I woke, I heard the birds chirping loud! I guess they were telling me to get ready and beat that storm! lol

So today in the midst of this storm, Thank God for being able to see you through it. In a few hours, the sun will be so bright and so will your life. Just weather this storm, and the sun will also shine on you!
Have an awesome and blessed day!
Hug and Kisses
The “Real” Mommie Teresa

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Money, “The Root of Evil”..

05 Sunday Jan 2014

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This topic comes from a conversation I had with someone very close to me.  People think when you have money, it can make you happy, it can solve problems, and you don’t need anyone “if” you have money.  Do you remember these quotes?  “Money is the root of all evil”; “more money, more problems”?  Those are true statements.  Someone is probably thinking.. “Well that ain’t me!  Give me money!!”

My thoughts go back to a time I was living in Eatonton.  Renting a house for a little of nothing, and having a house full of friends.  We didn’t have a lot of money, but we had enough for everyone to pitch in, buy a bottle of Crown Royal, fill up the gas tank, and ride all day!  Now those were the best times ever!  I then think about the time I had money, had a party, invited everyone who normally didn’t bring anything.  I did all the work, all the entertainment, and all the cleaning, while they were all gone.  Then think about the times you go out and spend hundreds of dollars hanging out with people who really don’t care about you, only that you are buying!  Where was the love?   Even when you have money and visit your hometown, you have to buy everything, do everything, pay everyone’s bills, and then leave empty handed.  Where’s the love?

The times you know people love you, is the times you have nothing!  More money, more problems.  What does that mean?  It doesn’t mean problems for you, it means you are now in charge of everyone else’s problems.  If you have money, everyone with a problem, looks to you as their saving grace.  You are supposed to be the one to bail everyone out of their situations that they put themselves in.  Only because you have money.  If you didn’t have money, then you’d be able to listen and to talk them thru their situation and give them advice.

Look at all those lottery winners who now have nothing! Why, because they probably were the saving grace for so many other people.  How many people do you think are lonely because they have money?  Probably over 80% of them?  Why? Because now, it’s not about love, and friendship, it’s about money.  If you think you have sincere friends, and you have money.. tell them you’re broke and see if they are still around!

Family is all we have these days.  When you are from a close family, do all you can to stay close.  Don’t  let the evilness of greed and money tear you apart! When I can sit and spend time with my family, my cousins, it means more to me than any amount of money I can have.  I know how to be broke, and I know how to have money, I’ve been thru both of them.  And its ashamed to say, that the times I didn’t have anything, were the best times of my life.

So people, don’t get caught up trying to be like the Jones.. They probably ain’t happy!  Don’t try to impress someone with something that you can’t afford.   Live within your means, and you will go a long way.  If you can’t afford designer, why keep making the designers “richer” and you “poorer”.   When I say, live, love and laugh, that’s what I mean.  Those are the days that you will always remember.

Love and Hugs

The “Real” Mommie” Teresa

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