As I was walking thru the dealership yesterday, a brother stopped me and said, “let me tell you what I see in you?” So I’m all ears, like what? He says, “you have the most confident walk of any woman I’ve seen. You seem to be fearless, confident, and not a care in the world, and happy”! Then he said, “I be all black men run when they see you?!” So now that he’s gotten my attention, I was like “really, and why do you think that is? Well he said “Most black men run from women who are confident and we see that as too much of a challenge, or high-maintenance. So most black men will not talk to you.”

Well now to me.. “Yes I’m confident, happy, and not afraid. I show it in my walk, my talk, my smile and my style. I’ll never dumb down for a man, or a job or anything else in life! I also won’t accept what isn’t right for me. If a man is intimidated, then that only means he’s not ready for me anyway. And no it’s not cocky, it’s confident. What you don’t see is my history. I’m independent by “situation” not by choice. My job as a Mom, (ie LEADER) was to be confident, happy, and strong. That way my children will lead by example. My job was to buy it, cook it, and clean it and take care of it. “It” meaning everything. All that was MY situation, not my choice. Situation is because of mistakes “I” made in life.

What I, or hopefully no woman will do is settled for someone who does not deserve them. When you work hard, and you have lived your life, then don’t accept anything or anyone that can’t accept you. God didn’t take you through everything you went thru to let you end up with someone who’s not worthy of you. Men, I’m not saying all “black” men can’t handle a strong woman. We as women WANT you to be the man! We want you to be the head of the household, but we also want you to know that WE GOT YOUR BACK! We are strong because that’s our nature. I was never taught to be submissive and it’s not a trait I can pretend to have. I am who I am, and I’m ok with it. But life lesson, walk like a boss, talk like a boss, think like a boss!! Bosses attract Bosses!! Find your Boss!!

Hopefully no feathers are ruffled, but I just wanted to put it out there!

Love and Hugs

“The Real Mommie Teresa”