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I Stopped Living, When He Started Dying

02 Saturday Sep 2023

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Rodney was my baby brother. He was the kind of kid who got into everything because he was so smart and bored, which made him curious. His curiosity made him the toughest kid on the block! He knew about everything and wanted to experience it all. Back in the day, they called it “behavior issues,” but today, it’s referred to as A.D.D. I was always tasked with taking care of Rodney since he was the youngest. We lost our mom when Rodney was 11 years old. In June of 2022, he was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer, and we both faced that reality together. From that day until he passed away on July 14th, 2023, he was still my baby, and I miss him dearly.

That title took a lot of realization and hurt to admit. The day my Baby Brother Rodney was diagnosed with Lung Cancer, I felt like I had that diagnosis too. No GOD, this can’t be true! Not one of the most important people in my life, and you’re gonna take him too? You have all my family! My Mom, Dad, Brother, and now you want Rodney? I was mad, I was hurt, and I didn’t want to accept it. I thought, maybe it’s a test! Maybe GOD will let Rodney be a testimony of healing. But HE didn’t. HE took him too. This was so pain jolting to me because I felt Rodney’s whole cancer experience. When he hurt, I hurt. When his back hurt, I couldn’t sleep because I felt a burning from my lower back to my legs. When he called me upset and crying, we cried together. When his legs hurt, my legs hurt.

I stopped living and took his death sentence with him. I wouldn’t do things when he was sick because I felt like, why would I enjoy life when he couldn’t! How many of us love someone so much that we feel their pain, hurt, stress, and regrets? I wanted to be available when he called me 3, 4 times a day. I didn’t want to be around “people”, only my kids and grandkids. I shared everything with him. We talked about our childhood, how we grew up, how messed up things were, but we truly loved each other. We faced dislike and punishment because we had light skin color, and yes, it was tough. But I kept Rodney safe as much as I could. Not to mention, Rodney was mischievous and didn’t care about getting a whooping! LOL. But he was still my baby brother whom I loved unconditionally.

Now I talk to him in my dreams. I laugh with him when he shows up on the clouds. Fly free as I always say. I still wake up with tears when I see him in my dreams, and I miss him. He was the last of my family dynamic and we related to each other in everything. When they told him the cancer had spread, and he had less than 2 months left, he made one phone call because he didn’t want to say this but once, and that was to me. Everything he needed to tell me about our love, he said it. Everything he wanted to thank me for in life, he thanked me, and I did the same to him. Even though I was on a floor, damn near balled up in tear coma, GOD gave me the extra strength to talk to him. To have some closure and to let him know, I’ll be there till the end. It’s been 6 weeks now, and I’m still in pain. I exist, but I don’t live. I’m glad I can realize that and try to start working on it. But grief is a bitch that I truly HATE! As soon as you feel a little better, it pops in like that family member who only shows up when they want something! lol.

As I heal, I realize I have to live again. I can’t die with him because he’s with GOD and our family, and I know he’s a lot happier than I am. He’s laughing with Jr. and loving on Mom, and arguing with Daddy! LOL. I have to make them happy by living for them. But I’ll take it one day at a time. When you think your heart can’t break any more… just hold on. One is coming for you. I’ll make sure every day, they can look down and say, she did that! By loving as much as I can, remembering them in everything I do, and thanking GOD for the laughs, the smiles, the tears, and the fun time we shared together. I know grief is hard, but this too shall pass. But one day at a time. Now that little boy who was so adventurous is sailing in the clouds looking out for me as one of my most loved Angels. He has the wings to fly wherever I am now, and I love it. I always look for Rodney in the clouds, and he never lets me down. I’ll always love this boy. And I’ll miss him just as much. ❤️

This is the day Rodney died. The clouds appeared to be him in transition, then an Angel, then off on a motorcycle he loved.

Starting My Business.. And You Can Too!!

25 Tuesday Oct 2016

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Hello Everyone,

I thought I’d takg-wagone some time today just to talk about how I started Let’s Go Buy A Car and some of the obstacle of being a Business Owner. I know there are sooo many of you all that want to “quit that job” and have no idea how you can make it without “that job”!  I was there too, for so many years! I’ve always wanted to own a business and work for myself, but FEAR of that “paycheck” kept me from moving forward.   But once I was sick and tired, of being sick and tired of “that job” I realized, I was smart, I was tactful, I had lots of hustle, and I was not AFRAID!  What’s the worst thing that could happen? Failure?  But if I didn’t try, I’d never know if I could do it or not.  I knew that on “that job”, I gave 199% of me, and that was for someone else!  If I could give someone else MY 199%, I could give ME 500%!  And that’s what I did! I was a Mom and raised 3 amazing kids on my own, and no “job” could ever be as challenging as that!  So what did I have to lose?   Make sure you follow and keep up with the blog.  Some of my challenges and rewards could possibly help you “get started” to being your own Boss!

I’ll be giving you all tips on the career path in the blogs. So make sure you follow and keep up. And if you are trying to launch a business, just do it!! Don’t keep waiting! Tomorrow isn’t promised, so don’t die and bury your dream!

More coming….

The Real Mommie Teresa

“I Can’t Breathe”

25 Sunday Sep 2016

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As I sat on the couch and watched my Dad in the hospital, with the oxygen in his nose, he would take these deep breaths, then he would pause before he would breath again. I would sit there and watch him, just to make sure he could breath. As I watched him, and I watched tv with all the protests in Charlotte, all I could think about was the phrase, “I can’t breath”. When it weights this heavy on my mind, I have to write.

“I can’t breathe”.. The 1st time was when my Dad told me my Mom died. I remember taking that deep breath in, and not letting one out…

“I can’t breath”… When I saw my Mom in the coffin and the glass covering her whole body..

“I can’t breathe”… When my Grandmother was dying with cancer and on her way to the hospital she said, this was going to be her last trip to the hospital because she knew she’d never come home again.

“I can’t breathe”.. When I found out RC had died in surgery from a car accident and my 1st born child would never get to see his father.

“I can’t breathe”.. When Jr. didn’t wake up and Nita told me to get home as soon as I can because my Brother had died.

You get my point? I can breathe never ends up with something good. Then I think about when a parent has to see their child gunned down in the streets. Not by a police, but by ANYONE!! I think about the wives who witness the murder of their husbands, I think about the men who are only trying to protect their families, or the women who are trying to protect their families. When you can’t breath, your chest hurts, your eyes fill with water, and you don’t know whether to run or be still, but it all hurts!

I can’t breath when I think about the injustice of society. I can’t breath when I think about how we’ve worked so hard to get to where we can all get along and “society” can rip us apart like paper. I can’t breath when we as MOMS have to bury our children too soon for nothing. I can’t breathe when I see racist hate because of the color of someone’s skin!  Not breathing hurts.!! The only cure for not breathing, is breathing! I pray for everyone to be able to breathe. Not breathing is a natural part of life that was made to take your breath away and it already hurts, but the unnecessary “I can’t breathe” has to stop. And once I finished writing this blog, my updated iWatch said “BREATHE’! So it’s also taking 1 minute for you to just take time from you day to breathe. How ironic. Look at your life, look at the people in your life. Look at who’s worth your breath, and those are the people that you fight for! Don’t settle for the injustice.  We’ve come to far to turn back now.  Breathe!

Love and Hugs,

The Real Mommie Teresa

 

 

 

What is “Your” Purpose?

11 Monday Jul 2016

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Lately I’ve had to ask myself over and over again.. what is my dream for me? And I can’t seem to come up with an answer.  Does anyone else feel that way?  Do you all realize that our dreams were for our children?  Our dreams were for the future of our children and we never made dreams for ourselves.  My whole life revolved around making their dreams come true.  Not once did I ever dream of what I wanted.  Now that I’m in a position to truly try to live my dreams, I don’t know what they are.  The dreams that I had, aren’t as meaningful now because the kids are adults, and the things I wished for them, are almost complete.  So now I’m on a “make a dream list” for me.  And I think you all should think of that too.  Think of what it is you would dream of for yourself.  Write it down, and then you’ll have a goal to work toward.  We have to live life for more than working for the pleasure of others.  I know I’m a fine one to talk, because that’s what makes me happy, but it doesn’t complete me.  So all my Baby Boomers.. we are over the 50 mark, and we have to live out our dreams now!  What’s your dream?

Love and Hugs,

“The Real Mommie Teresa”

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As Parents, “Did We Forget Our Dream?”

27 Monday Jun 2016

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IMG_5936I went to a Daymond John Seminar last week and learned a lot. I purchased Daymond’s book, “The Power of Broke” and also learned a lot more. I’m not going into the methods of entrepreneurship in this blog because I want you all to know where this seminar took me after 52 years of living. I’ve lived and amazing life. I’ve had lots of highs, and I’ve had lots of lows. They have all taught me valuable lessons of life. But this one lesson I’d like to share with the younger generation that I just didn’t get. I want you all to get it before you all get my age and look back and say.. dang… I didn’t even get it. So here it is.. And it’s free!!

When my Mom died, I was immediately responsible for our house. I was cooking, helping Daddy, and taking on the cooking duties and all those “missing Mommie” duties. After school, Military, then kids. So there was no time for me to live out any dreams of mine. Really I didn’t have any dreams because they all died with my Mom. I didn’t know anyone who lived a great life or anyone that was a Mentor who I could mimic and grow to be like in a small town. I didn’t know “rich” people. My Uncle in Jersey was “rich” to me. He was the one who showed me a different way of life. I then had “dreams” for “my children”. Hear what I say.. “my children”, not me. I made sure I took them to the million dollar neighborhoods to show them where they could live. Made sure they knew about all the luxury cars “they” could have, and the lifestyle “they” could live. I took them on shopping sprees and vacations to show them how “they” could live. I went to college so “they” could go.

Do y’all see where I’m going with this? I lived my life so “they” could live “their” dreams. I didn’t have dreams. My dreams died when my Mom died. I didn’t have any dreams. I never saw myself living “that” life because I was too busy trying to build it for my children. I was too busy working my ass off to enjoy my life, but I made sure “they” would enjoy theirs.

This is what “we” aren’t taught in the rural communities. We aren’t taught wealth. We aren’t taught credit. We weren’t taught investing. We were taught to work, and to take care of everyone else. Then we get 52 and realize. OH YEAH. now I got it. But the good thing about it, I did make sure my children have it. Now it’s time for me to create a dream and try to live it. It’s never too late to live a dream. So if you don’t have one, if you don’t have a goal, get at least one. Aim for that one, and once you reach it, create another one and keep going!

As Always…I’m Back!

The Real Mommie Teresa

 

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How Fierce Are You?!

01 Friday Jan 2016

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 Forget the fact that it’s a New Year!! Look at this Lion!! This should be your walk everyday!  I saw this picture and fell in love with it!! Now this is what you call confidence!! Walk in, take control, and get what you want!  And do it while you are looking AMAZING!! Hair flowing, back arched, and walking with all the confidence and no fear! This is your world! This is your life! If you don’t take control and live it like you are your own Kind or Queen.. You are tearing down your own castle!! Don’t let fear stop you from doing anything!! Just do it! And even if you don’t succeed, TRY!! You’ll either win, lose, or learn!! Either way, you didn’t quit or give up!!

GO GET YOUR BLESSINGS!!! 

Love and Hugs! 

The Real Mommie Teresa

Men..We Need You!! 

30 Wednesday Dec 2015

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I’m always blogging about us women, today I’m gonna do a special day for the “Men” that are doing the daggone thang!! If this is you..keep reading!!  If it’s not..read anyway, you need to hear this. 

To our men, we love you!! We love you and we respect you! We give you sons and daughters to protect, and to develop them into who they are supposed to be. We give you our hearts and our souls. All we ask in return is to give us back what we give you. Is it possible? Yes it is. I’m not a man basher to say men ain’t taking care of their responsibility, because some men are handling business! Some men are truly providers and protectors! Some men want the same thing some women want, to be happily ever after. But I’m gonna say this, just like some men, some women aren’t worth the happily ever after. Yes ladies I said “some”. We all look for a mate that is compatible to us. So you have to look at your strengths and your weaknesses and find someone who compliments them.  
To the single Fathers..welcome to our world! You get it! To be the sole parent who has to do everything, it’s tuff! You DO NOT have a life! You DO NOT have the right to be sick, or give up! Your one job became 3!! But the instincts of providing for a life kicks in, and you then understand, by any means necessary. You then have lived half the life of a woman. 
Men, God made us for you. He took one of your ribs and created us. He meant for us to be by your side and support you, love you, bear fruit for you. He gave us the honor to give life. To create a life “with you”! To have two souls come together to create a miracle. He allows us to come dang near death to bring In a life that “YOU” helped create. Yes I said dang near death…before epidural and all them pain meds..childbirth is the closest pain to death!! And I know!! And we do that for and with YOU! And men, while we are carrying your child, your child hears you, knows your voice also. You’re the one that makes Mom’s heart beat faster, you are the one who makes Mom’s blood pressure go up, you’re the one who can change all her moods in a matter of minutes. And yes, that child knows you!! 
So men that are taking care of us…thank you! Men that love us.. Thank you!! Men that provide for us and our children..thank you!! Men who aren’t afraid to be honest and give your heart..thank you! Men that are being loyal to their women and not afraid to tell the world..thank you! Men that are being men..thank you! We need you! We need you with us!! We need you out of jail, we need you drug free, we need you working, we need you to be role models to our sons, we need you to protect our sons from police and teach them the laws! We need you to teach our boys to be men! That’s what we need!! And to those that are doing all that…if no one ever said thank you.. The Real Mommie Teresa says, THANK YOU AND I LOVE YOU!! I pray for you everyday and if you aren’t there yet, my prayer is that this will touch you and let you know how we feel!
  Love & Hugs

The Real Mommie Teresa

My Dream Come True

27 Sunday Dec 2015

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  As a little girl at 13 years old, yes little girl. (Back then 13 you were still a little girl!!) I remember standing over my Mothers white casket, it had glass on top of it, and it showed her whole body. Almost like sleeping beauty. She had on a long white dress, pearl nail polish, and satin white shoes. Her hair was pulled back and her makeup was done flawless by my Aunt Flossie. She didn’t look dead. She looked sleep and she looked so at peace. She was beautiful. Not only was she beautiful dead, she was beautiful alive. She was the prettiest woman I ever knew. The love I had for her was an indescribable love. It was almost like a fairy tale love. You know the love that only comes once in a lifetime?  Well you can imagine how devistated I was when I saw that casket close, and watched them lower it into the ground and cover it with dirt. The absolute worst, most horrific day of my life! The pain was unbearable and I knew I had lost one thing I would never, ever get back in this life!! All I had was memories, and dreams of how we were, and who she was. I had lost my Best Friend! I prayed a lot. I missed all the Mom stuff growing up. I missed the love, the support, the talks, and the just being Mom. All the things I ever dreamed of, I missed.  

Years later after being a Mom of 2 amazing sons, I went to the doctor for a checkup and a refill on my birth control pills. And to my dismay, the doctor said I was pregnant!! Like almost 7 months!! Had no idea! No missed periods, no weight gain, nothing!!!!  I did NOT want anymore children. But now I was expecting a third, and then I found out it was a girl!  What a blessing. God protected that baby to make sure she got here!  Well that little girl was born and she carried a portion of my Mothers name. As a matter of fact, she looked like my Mom. She was perfect!  Then all the love I had inside from a Mother/Daughter prospective flood out into her. I gave her everything I missed with my Mom. She was my daughter, and she was my best friend. 

But not until she grew up, and a day like today, do I really understand who she is. She is my dream, except I’m the Mother and she’s me. She’s the me that wanted to take care of my Mother. She’s the me that was amazing and traveled and told the amazing stories.  She’s the me that sent beautiful gifts, and never let me feel unloved!  She’s giving me what I would have given to my Mom. I understand God’s purpose more today than I did when I was 13. I lost it all! But I was faithful and humble, and He gave it back to me. So God gave me a dream in you Christina. He is in you “Christ-Ina” and I never realized that until today.  I read every page of the book you sent me, and every page brought a joyful tear.  Because it’s so us!! We can see something and immediately laugh because we’re thinking the same thing…I can call you and you’ll be dialing me… I’ll be cramping and call you and you’re cramping..you share all your joys with me and I share mine with you. 

So today, this is for you. You are my Dream. You are the person that completed my life cycle. You are the gift God gave me back for my Mother, and I love you soooooo much. There are not enough words to tell you what you mean to me, and how you healed so much hurt that was in my heart. All I can say is “Christina, thank you for loving me” and “thank you God for loving me enough to make my dreams come true by giving me a chance to really know, A Mother’s Love through a daughter!!

And by all means, I love my boys!! My Men..My protectors!! They are all of that!! They make sure me and Christina are ok all the time and they are also my gifts!! However, this was about a little girl who lost her Mother. 

“Hugs, love & joyful tears”

The Real Mommie Teresa 


 

Your Kids Are Watching You

11 Friday Dec 2015

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 Last night Christina called me and said, “Mom, thanks for raising me not to be a snobbish, uppity, self-centered, woman!  I love you for raising me like you did!”  So I asked her, where was she and what crazy women did she see?  She said she went to a networking event in NY hosted by Hillary Clinton, and the older African American women who she used to think were amazing and looked up to, were  snobs!! She was really disappointed at their attitudes and personalities!  Which brought me here.

Parents, our kids look up to us. They watch everything we do. They look at how we talk to people, how we treat people, what we say to people, what we do for people, and they mimic our actions. If we are snobs, guess  what we are raising? Right…little snobs!  When you find young women who want to look up to you, and they realize you are only a fake, can you imagine how that makes them feel?  Our young generation needs strong mentors to look up to. They need someone to help them achieve a level higher than us.  We HAVE to be humble and realize we have eyes watching our every move. When you are all of sudden, too good to give back, then you are useless and the talents that God gave you, He will take them back because you aren’t using them for the good of Him. When you are snapping and acting a fool, going off on people, being too good for everything, complaining about everything and everybody, mad for no reason…remember, the kids are watching and they mimic your actions. So today, look at how you act and think…would want your child acting like you. If the answer is no, it’s not too late to change!!!

Hugs & Love

The Real Mommie Teresa

A Happy Place

08 Tuesday Dec 2015

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  Have you ever been at a point in life where you feel like life is just great? It’s funny when you’re happy, and people can see the happiness in you. When you lose your joy, it shows in everything you do. The way you talk, walk, dress, and act toward other people.  When you’re not happy, you attract people to you who are in a place where you are. When you’re in a happy place, you attract happy people. It’s strange how that works out, and how the body can show emotions. People want to be around someone who has really good vibes and are emotionally stable. So I challenge you to take a few pictures of yourself on a day you are really happy, then look back at a day you weren’t happy and see if you can see the happiness radiate from within yourself. 

God gave us all an internal light to shine so others can see it. It draws people to you. It lets them know, you’re one of the chosen ones, and God has you. So find your light and let it shine. When you find your happy place, no one and nothing can really steal your joy. God has you and He has control.  I have the attitude of “won’t He do it”!  And I ain’t going to let no one steal my joy! 

Today I pledge, I’m done with drama. If it doesn’t make ME happy, I’m not draining my emotions. The feelings of happiness gives you energy. It doesn’t drain you. If it’s takes negative energy…lose me with it!! 😁.  Being happy is too easy. There’s a simple solution. If it doesn’t make you happy.. Let it go.  See if your happiness returns. If it does, then that problem was stealing your joy. 

Hugs and love,

The Real Mother Teresa