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Starting My Business.. And You Can Too!!

25 Tuesday Oct 2016

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Hello Everyone,

I thought I’d takg-wagone some time today just to talk about how I started Let’s Go Buy A Car and some of the obstacle of being a Business Owner. I know there are sooo many of you all that want to “quit that job” and have no idea how you can make it without “that job”!  I was there too, for so many years! I’ve always wanted to own a business and work for myself, but FEAR of that “paycheck” kept me from moving forward.   But once I was sick and tired, of being sick and tired of “that job” I realized, I was smart, I was tactful, I had lots of hustle, and I was not AFRAID!  What’s the worst thing that could happen? Failure?  But if I didn’t try, I’d never know if I could do it or not.  I knew that on “that job”, I gave 199% of me, and that was for someone else!  If I could give someone else MY 199%, I could give ME 500%!  And that’s what I did! I was a Mom and raised 3 amazing kids on my own, and no “job” could ever be as challenging as that!  So what did I have to lose?   Make sure you follow and keep up with the blog.  Some of my challenges and rewards could possibly help you “get started” to being your own Boss!

I’ll be giving you all tips on the career path in the blogs. So make sure you follow and keep up. And if you are trying to launch a business, just do it!! Don’t keep waiting! Tomorrow isn’t promised, so don’t die and bury your dream!

More coming….

The Real Mommie Teresa

“I Can’t Breathe”

25 Sunday Sep 2016

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As I sat on the couch and watched my Dad in the hospital, with the oxygen in his nose, he would take these deep breaths, then he would pause before he would breath again. I would sit there and watch him, just to make sure he could breath. As I watched him, and I watched tv with all the protests in Charlotte, all I could think about was the phrase, “I can’t breath”. When it weights this heavy on my mind, I have to write.

“I can’t breathe”.. The 1st time was when my Dad told me my Mom died. I remember taking that deep breath in, and not letting one out…

“I can’t breath”… When I saw my Mom in the coffin and the glass covering her whole body..

“I can’t breathe”… When my Grandmother was dying with cancer and on her way to the hospital she said, this was going to be her last trip to the hospital because she knew she’d never come home again.

“I can’t breathe”.. When I found out RC had died in surgery from a car accident and my 1st born child would never get to see his father.

“I can’t breathe”.. When Jr. didn’t wake up and Nita told me to get home as soon as I can because my Brother had died.

You get my point? I can breathe never ends up with something good. Then I think about when a parent has to see their child gunned down in the streets. Not by a police, but by ANYONE!! I think about the wives who witness the murder of their husbands, I think about the men who are only trying to protect their families, or the women who are trying to protect their families. When you can’t breath, your chest hurts, your eyes fill with water, and you don’t know whether to run or be still, but it all hurts!

I can’t breath when I think about the injustice of society. I can’t breath when I think about how we’ve worked so hard to get to where we can all get along and “society” can rip us apart like paper. I can’t breath when we as MOMS have to bury our children too soon for nothing. I can’t breathe when I see racist hate because of the color of someone’s skin!  Not breathing hurts.!! The only cure for not breathing, is breathing! I pray for everyone to be able to breathe. Not breathing is a natural part of life that was made to take your breath away and it already hurts, but the unnecessary “I can’t breathe” has to stop. And once I finished writing this blog, my updated iWatch said “BREATHE’! So it’s also taking 1 minute for you to just take time from you day to breathe. How ironic. Look at your life, look at the people in your life. Look at who’s worth your breath, and those are the people that you fight for! Don’t settle for the injustice.  We’ve come to far to turn back now.  Breathe!

Love and Hugs,

The Real Mommie Teresa

 

 

 

What is “Your” Purpose?

11 Monday Jul 2016

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Lately I’ve had to ask myself over and over again.. what is my dream for me? And I can’t seem to come up with an answer.  Does anyone else feel that way?  Do you all realize that our dreams were for our children?  Our dreams were for the future of our children and we never made dreams for ourselves.  My whole life revolved around making their dreams come true.  Not once did I ever dream of what I wanted.  Now that I’m in a position to truly try to live my dreams, I don’t know what they are.  The dreams that I had, aren’t as meaningful now because the kids are adults, and the things I wished for them, are almost complete.  So now I’m on a “make a dream list” for me.  And I think you all should think of that too.  Think of what it is you would dream of for yourself.  Write it down, and then you’ll have a goal to work toward.  We have to live life for more than working for the pleasure of others.  I know I’m a fine one to talk, because that’s what makes me happy, but it doesn’t complete me.  So all my Baby Boomers.. we are over the 50 mark, and we have to live out our dreams now!  What’s your dream?

Love and Hugs,

“The Real Mommie Teresa”

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As Parents, “Did We Forget Our Dream?”

27 Monday Jun 2016

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IMG_5936I went to a Daymond John Seminar last week and learned a lot. I purchased Daymond’s book, “The Power of Broke” and also learned a lot more. I’m not going into the methods of entrepreneurship in this blog because I want you all to know where this seminar took me after 52 years of living. I’ve lived and amazing life. I’ve had lots of highs, and I’ve had lots of lows. They have all taught me valuable lessons of life. But this one lesson I’d like to share with the younger generation that I just didn’t get. I want you all to get it before you all get my age and look back and say.. dang… I didn’t even get it. So here it is.. And it’s free!!

When my Mom died, I was immediately responsible for our house. I was cooking, helping Daddy, and taking on the cooking duties and all those “missing Mommie” duties. After school, Military, then kids. So there was no time for me to live out any dreams of mine. Really I didn’t have any dreams because they all died with my Mom. I didn’t know anyone who lived a great life or anyone that was a Mentor who I could mimic and grow to be like in a small town. I didn’t know “rich” people. My Uncle in Jersey was “rich” to me. He was the one who showed me a different way of life. I then had “dreams” for “my children”. Hear what I say.. “my children”, not me. I made sure I took them to the million dollar neighborhoods to show them where they could live. Made sure they knew about all the luxury cars “they” could have, and the lifestyle “they” could live. I took them on shopping sprees and vacations to show them how “they” could live. I went to college so “they” could go.

Do y’all see where I’m going with this? I lived my life so “they” could live “their” dreams. I didn’t have dreams. My dreams died when my Mom died. I didn’t have any dreams. I never saw myself living “that” life because I was too busy trying to build it for my children. I was too busy working my ass off to enjoy my life, but I made sure “they” would enjoy theirs.

This is what “we” aren’t taught in the rural communities. We aren’t taught wealth. We aren’t taught credit. We weren’t taught investing. We were taught to work, and to take care of everyone else. Then we get 52 and realize. OH YEAH. now I got it. But the good thing about it, I did make sure my children have it. Now it’s time for me to create a dream and try to live it. It’s never too late to live a dream. So if you don’t have one, if you don’t have a goal, get at least one. Aim for that one, and once you reach it, create another one and keep going!

As Always…I’m Back!

The Real Mommie Teresa

 

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How Fierce Are You?!

01 Friday Jan 2016

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 Forget the fact that it’s a New Year!! Look at this Lion!! This should be your walk everyday!  I saw this picture and fell in love with it!! Now this is what you call confidence!! Walk in, take control, and get what you want!  And do it while you are looking AMAZING!! Hair flowing, back arched, and walking with all the confidence and no fear! This is your world! This is your life! If you don’t take control and live it like you are your own Kind or Queen.. You are tearing down your own castle!! Don’t let fear stop you from doing anything!! Just do it! And even if you don’t succeed, TRY!! You’ll either win, lose, or learn!! Either way, you didn’t quit or give up!!

GO GET YOUR BLESSINGS!!! 

Love and Hugs! 

The Real Mommie Teresa

My Dream Come True

27 Sunday Dec 2015

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  As a little girl at 13 years old, yes little girl. (Back then 13 you were still a little girl!!) I remember standing over my Mothers white casket, it had glass on top of it, and it showed her whole body. Almost like sleeping beauty. She had on a long white dress, pearl nail polish, and satin white shoes. Her hair was pulled back and her makeup was done flawless by my Aunt Flossie. She didn’t look dead. She looked sleep and she looked so at peace. She was beautiful. Not only was she beautiful dead, she was beautiful alive. She was the prettiest woman I ever knew. The love I had for her was an indescribable love. It was almost like a fairy tale love. You know the love that only comes once in a lifetime?  Well you can imagine how devistated I was when I saw that casket close, and watched them lower it into the ground and cover it with dirt. The absolute worst, most horrific day of my life! The pain was unbearable and I knew I had lost one thing I would never, ever get back in this life!! All I had was memories, and dreams of how we were, and who she was. I had lost my Best Friend! I prayed a lot. I missed all the Mom stuff growing up. I missed the love, the support, the talks, and the just being Mom. All the things I ever dreamed of, I missed.  

Years later after being a Mom of 2 amazing sons, I went to the doctor for a checkup and a refill on my birth control pills. And to my dismay, the doctor said I was pregnant!! Like almost 7 months!! Had no idea! No missed periods, no weight gain, nothing!!!!  I did NOT want anymore children. But now I was expecting a third, and then I found out it was a girl!  What a blessing. God protected that baby to make sure she got here!  Well that little girl was born and she carried a portion of my Mothers name. As a matter of fact, she looked like my Mom. She was perfect!  Then all the love I had inside from a Mother/Daughter prospective flood out into her. I gave her everything I missed with my Mom. She was my daughter, and she was my best friend. 

But not until she grew up, and a day like today, do I really understand who she is. She is my dream, except I’m the Mother and she’s me. She’s the me that wanted to take care of my Mother. She’s the me that was amazing and traveled and told the amazing stories.  She’s the me that sent beautiful gifts, and never let me feel unloved!  She’s giving me what I would have given to my Mom. I understand God’s purpose more today than I did when I was 13. I lost it all! But I was faithful and humble, and He gave it back to me. So God gave me a dream in you Christina. He is in you “Christ-Ina” and I never realized that until today.  I read every page of the book you sent me, and every page brought a joyful tear.  Because it’s so us!! We can see something and immediately laugh because we’re thinking the same thing…I can call you and you’ll be dialing me… I’ll be cramping and call you and you’re cramping..you share all your joys with me and I share mine with you. 

So today, this is for you. You are my Dream. You are the person that completed my life cycle. You are the gift God gave me back for my Mother, and I love you soooooo much. There are not enough words to tell you what you mean to me, and how you healed so much hurt that was in my heart. All I can say is “Christina, thank you for loving me” and “thank you God for loving me enough to make my dreams come true by giving me a chance to really know, A Mother’s Love through a daughter!!

And by all means, I love my boys!! My Men..My protectors!! They are all of that!! They make sure me and Christina are ok all the time and they are also my gifts!! However, this was about a little girl who lost her Mother. 

“Hugs, love & joyful tears”

The Real Mommie Teresa 


 

Your Kids Are Watching You

11 Friday Dec 2015

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 Last night Christina called me and said, “Mom, thanks for raising me not to be a snobbish, uppity, self-centered, woman!  I love you for raising me like you did!”  So I asked her, where was she and what crazy women did she see?  She said she went to a networking event in NY hosted by Hillary Clinton, and the older African American women who she used to think were amazing and looked up to, were  snobs!! She was really disappointed at their attitudes and personalities!  Which brought me here.

Parents, our kids look up to us. They watch everything we do. They look at how we talk to people, how we treat people, what we say to people, what we do for people, and they mimic our actions. If we are snobs, guess  what we are raising? Right…little snobs!  When you find young women who want to look up to you, and they realize you are only a fake, can you imagine how that makes them feel?  Our young generation needs strong mentors to look up to. They need someone to help them achieve a level higher than us.  We HAVE to be humble and realize we have eyes watching our every move. When you are all of sudden, too good to give back, then you are useless and the talents that God gave you, He will take them back because you aren’t using them for the good of Him. When you are snapping and acting a fool, going off on people, being too good for everything, complaining about everything and everybody, mad for no reason…remember, the kids are watching and they mimic your actions. So today, look at how you act and think…would want your child acting like you. If the answer is no, it’s not too late to change!!!

Hugs & Love

The Real Mommie Teresa

A Happy Place

08 Tuesday Dec 2015

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  Have you ever been at a point in life where you feel like life is just great? It’s funny when you’re happy, and people can see the happiness in you. When you lose your joy, it shows in everything you do. The way you talk, walk, dress, and act toward other people.  When you’re not happy, you attract people to you who are in a place where you are. When you’re in a happy place, you attract happy people. It’s strange how that works out, and how the body can show emotions. People want to be around someone who has really good vibes and are emotionally stable. So I challenge you to take a few pictures of yourself on a day you are really happy, then look back at a day you weren’t happy and see if you can see the happiness radiate from within yourself. 

God gave us all an internal light to shine so others can see it. It draws people to you. It lets them know, you’re one of the chosen ones, and God has you. So find your light and let it shine. When you find your happy place, no one and nothing can really steal your joy. God has you and He has control.  I have the attitude of “won’t He do it”!  And I ain’t going to let no one steal my joy! 

Today I pledge, I’m done with drama. If it doesn’t make ME happy, I’m not draining my emotions. The feelings of happiness gives you energy. It doesn’t drain you. If it’s takes negative energy…lose me with it!! 😁.  Being happy is too easy. There’s a simple solution. If it doesn’t make you happy.. Let it go.  See if your happiness returns. If it does, then that problem was stealing your joy. 

Hugs and love,

The Real Mother Teresa

Don’t Give Santa All Your Money..

02 Wednesday Dec 2015

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Santa WalletWell it’s that time of year again.  Time for the parents to go broke to get the kids all these toys that they want from the TV commercials! Well I’ve been through that over 25 times (until they finished college) and I have some advice that could save you lots of money and heartache dealing with the children.  If your kids are adults, you’ll understand!

First of all, the kids need a limit of toys.  I know we want them to have more than what we had, but really.. we had maybe 2 toys!  So 3 toys would be more than what we had!  If you tell your kids they can get 5 toys, then you’ll see what’s really important to them.  That’s what you focus on.  Anything else would be a bonus.  How many times have they opened a gift and played with it once.  But stayed on the playstation for 10 days!  Not looking at anything else.  Stop wasting money on all those little things they don’t care about.  It’s more for the parents than the kids.

Be honest with them if your funds can’t get everything they want.  I know a lot of parents struggle everyday.  And you wonder how you will get the kids the gifts they want.  Kids ask for it because they think you can afford it!  If you be honest with your kids before Christmas and let them know that you can’t afford certain items, (if you raised them right) they will understand and their expectations won’t be so big.  Then if you are able to get more, its a bonus.  I remember one year I really couldn’t afford to get them  a  lot, but they ALWAYS had great Christmases.  They were incredibly understanding which blew me away.  But after Christmas, once bills were paid, I splurged on them, because they understood.

In short, Christmas has been commercialized and marketed to make kids think its about the toys and the gifts when it’s really not.  It’s about the birth of our Lord and Savior.  It’s about giving to the needy, and it’s about rejoicing.  If your kids seem ungrateful, take them to any homeless shelter and let them see how excited those kids are who only get one toy!  We as parents are the culprits. We are the ones who spoil our kids with “things” and they don’t get the true meaning until the “things” aren’t involved.  So this year, don’t go broke on one day.  Babies won’t even know it’s Christmas new Moms.  They already have lots of toys they never play with.  lol.. But I know it’s hard to not buy them everything.  But that’s for you.. not them, because they don’t know.

Cherish the day, and let the kids know the true meaning of Christmas.  And if you can do something for a child who has nothing, ask your child to give away one toy to a child who won’t get anything. They will certainly understand the true meaning and the value of Christmas if they do.

Hugs & Kisses

The Real Mommie Teresa

Start your day on a Happy Note..

01 Tuesday Dec 2015

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I woke up this morning, and after my prayer, I went on Facebook.  I saw where people had died last night, and accidents, and sadness.  My heart then went to a sad place.  I had to go back in prayer and start all over.  Then it hit me… I will not be starting my day off with things that are not happy!  I turned on my “happy” music. That was the song “Happy” by Pharrell.  Then guess what, my mood changed!  I started dancing, clapping, and singing!!  My mood was adjusted so fast because of my instincts.  I knew where I was going with my mood, and I changed it.

  
We can all change our moods.  If you know something isn’t bringing you joy and happiness, change.  If it stresses you out, change. If it causes you to not sleep, change.  If you don’t see anything positive, change.  You get it right?  Change can change you!  It can make you happy, better, stronger!  Don’t let the “world” make you unhappy!  It’s crazy, because it seems like November and December are always my “change” months! I purge my phone, deleting negativity, purge my social media, deleting irrelevant.. I wondered why, then I realized that I refuse to start a New Year with something that does not make me happy!  And changes have been made!! LOL.. I’ll update ya later on those!  But I thought someone else would need this today.

So remember, if it’s not making you happy…CHANGE IT! It’s all up to you!

Hugs and Kisses

The Real Mommie Teresa