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Men..We Need You!! 

30 Wednesday Dec 2015

Posted by Teresa in Faith, Fathers, Happy, Life, Mothers, pregnancy, Uplifting

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childbirth, family, men. fathers

 
I’m always blogging about us women, today I’m gonna do a special day for the “Men” that are doing the daggone thang!! If this is you..keep reading!!  If it’s not..read anyway, you need to hear this. 

To our men, we love you!! We love you and we respect you! We give you sons and daughters to protect, and to develop them into who they are supposed to be. We give you our hearts and our souls. All we ask in return is to give us back what we give you. Is it possible? Yes it is. I’m not a man basher to say men ain’t taking care of their responsibility, because some men are handling business! Some men are truly providers and protectors! Some men want the same thing some women want, to be happily ever after. But I’m gonna say this, just like some men, some women aren’t worth the happily ever after. Yes ladies I said “some”. We all look for a mate that is compatible to us. So you have to look at your strengths and your weaknesses and find someone who compliments them.  
To the single Fathers..welcome to our world! You get it! To be the sole parent who has to do everything, it’s tuff! You DO NOT have a life! You DO NOT have the right to be sick, or give up! Your one job became 3!! But the instincts of providing for a life kicks in, and you then understand, by any means necessary. You then have lived half the life of a woman. 
Men, God made us for you. He took one of your ribs and created us. He meant for us to be by your side and support you, love you, bear fruit for you. He gave us the honor to give life. To create a life “with you”! To have two souls come together to create a miracle. He allows us to come dang near death to bring In a life that “YOU” helped create. Yes I said dang near death…before epidural and all them pain meds..childbirth is the closest pain to death!! And I know!! And we do that for and with YOU! And men, while we are carrying your child, your child hears you, knows your voice also. You’re the one that makes Mom’s heart beat faster, you are the one who makes Mom’s blood pressure go up, you’re the one who can change all her moods in a matter of minutes. And yes, that child knows you!! 
So men that are taking care of us…thank you! Men that love us.. Thank you!! Men that provide for us and our children..thank you!! Men who aren’t afraid to be honest and give your heart..thank you! Men that are being loyal to their women and not afraid to tell the world..thank you! Men that are being men..thank you! We need you! We need you with us!! We need you out of jail, we need you drug free, we need you working, we need you to be role models to our sons, we need you to protect our sons from police and teach them the laws! We need you to teach our boys to be men! That’s what we need!! And to those that are doing all that…if no one ever said thank you.. The Real Mommie Teresa says, THANK YOU AND I LOVE YOU!! I pray for you everyday and if you aren’t there yet, my prayer is that this will touch you and let you know how we feel!
  Love & Hugs

The Real Mommie Teresa

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A New Year to Discover a New U!!

28 Monday Dec 2015

Posted by Teresa in Life

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  Ladies, so as the year ends, I see lots of post about loneliness and spending another New Year’s Eve alone, well as I always say, I’m no expert in the relationship arena, but I can tell you how to appreciate “YOU”! Keep reading…
Some women feel like you need a man to make you complete. Well in God’s cycle of life, a man is intended to close the circle, but not ANY man!! What you need to do is look at yourself, look at your character, and look at your character flaws. Yes we all have flaws, but we can be flawless by realizing what they are and making adjustment. Now is it easy? Nope!! But you have to really know what it is you want, and don’t settle for anything less. Don’t waste your time with a man who isn’t looking for what you are. If y’all ain’t headed in the same direction, then somebody needs to do a U turn!! Because now all you’re about to do is keep driving down one-way street! Value your worth and don’t accept anything less!! 
Our problem is God gave us this big ole heart to love freely and unconditionally. But we have to learn when to open it and when to close it. It can’t be opened for every person you meet. My motto is, I open the heart until I see that it’s the only heart opened. Then I shut it down. Because I won’t let it get broken by someone who isn’t worthy. Y’all know I always got a story. Lol. Do I want a happily ever after? Sure I do, but that’s exactly what I want. Not a happy today, sad tomorrow, mad the next day, then lonely the day after. The older we get the harder it gets to find a man that is ready for your life. As maturity hits, guess what? You’re more picky and you can be!! We’ve been thru all the bullcrap life had to throw at us! Been thru the drama, the struggle, the hardships! And guess what? Not trying to do that now!! So be careful what you looking for because it may not be what you want!  
So this year, ask God for what you want, and also ask him to remove what isn’t for you in your life. And if you trust him.. He will! Did I ask for that almost perfect man? Nope, I didn’t. Why? Because I want to make sure I’m as close to perfect to be able to meet his need as well as he can meet mine. So when you’re lonely, look at yourself and ask, if you were a man, would you want someone like you? If the answer is no, why? And what needs to change. No one knows you like you know you. 
Love and Hugs
The Real Mommie Teresa

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Your Kids Are Watching You

11 Friday Dec 2015

Posted by Teresa in Babies, Life, mothers, Uncategorized, Uplifting

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leadership, mentors, positivity

 Last night Christina called me and said, “Mom, thanks for raising me not to be a snobbish, uppity, self-centered, woman!  I love you for raising me like you did!”  So I asked her, where was she and what crazy women did she see?  She said she went to a networking event in NY hosted by Hillary Clinton, and the older African American women who she used to think were amazing and looked up to, were  snobs!! She was really disappointed at their attitudes and personalities!  Which brought me here.

Parents, our kids look up to us. They watch everything we do. They look at how we talk to people, how we treat people, what we say to people, what we do for people, and they mimic our actions. If we are snobs, guess  what we are raising? Right…little snobs!  When you find young women who want to look up to you, and they realize you are only a fake, can you imagine how that makes them feel?  Our young generation needs strong mentors to look up to. They need someone to help them achieve a level higher than us.  We HAVE to be humble and realize we have eyes watching our every move. When you are all of sudden, too good to give back, then you are useless and the talents that God gave you, He will take them back because you aren’t using them for the good of Him. When you are snapping and acting a fool, going off on people, being too good for everything, complaining about everything and everybody, mad for no reason…remember, the kids are watching and they mimic your actions. So today, look at how you act and think…would want your child acting like you. If the answer is no, it’s not too late to change!!!

Hugs & Love

The Real Mommie Teresa

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A Happy Place

08 Tuesday Dec 2015

Posted by Teresa in Faith, Happy, Jobs, Life, Uncategorized, Uplifting

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fear, happiness, happy, jobs, Love, peace, Relationships

  Have you ever been at a point in life where you feel like life is just great? It’s funny when you’re happy, and people can see the happiness in you. When you lose your joy, it shows in everything you do. The way you talk, walk, dress, and act toward other people.  When you’re not happy, you attract people to you who are in a place where you are. When you’re in a happy place, you attract happy people. It’s strange how that works out, and how the body can show emotions. People want to be around someone who has really good vibes and are emotionally stable. So I challenge you to take a few pictures of yourself on a day you are really happy, then look back at a day you weren’t happy and see if you can see the happiness radiate from within yourself. 

God gave us all an internal light to shine so others can see it. It draws people to you. It lets them know, you’re one of the chosen ones, and God has you. So find your light and let it shine. When you find your happy place, no one and nothing can really steal your joy. God has you and He has control.  I have the attitude of “won’t He do it”!  And I ain’t going to let no one steal my joy! 

Today I pledge, I’m done with drama. If it doesn’t make ME happy, I’m not draining my emotions. The feelings of happiness gives you energy. It doesn’t drain you. If it’s takes negative energy…lose me with it!! 😁.  Being happy is too easy. There’s a simple solution. If it doesn’t make you happy.. Let it go.  See if your happiness returns. If it does, then that problem was stealing your joy. 

Hugs and love,

The Real Mother Teresa

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Don’t Give Santa All Your Money..

02 Wednesday Dec 2015

Posted by Teresa in Babies, Christmas, Faith, Holidays, Jobs, Life, mothers, Uncategorized

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children, Christmas, faith, family, finance, God, Love, money, mother, Santa, Toys

Santa WalletWell it’s that time of year again.  Time for the parents to go broke to get the kids all these toys that they want from the TV commercials! Well I’ve been through that over 25 times (until they finished college) and I have some advice that could save you lots of money and heartache dealing with the children.  If your kids are adults, you’ll understand!

First of all, the kids need a limit of toys.  I know we want them to have more than what we had, but really.. we had maybe 2 toys!  So 3 toys would be more than what we had!  If you tell your kids they can get 5 toys, then you’ll see what’s really important to them.  That’s what you focus on.  Anything else would be a bonus.  How many times have they opened a gift and played with it once.  But stayed on the playstation for 10 days!  Not looking at anything else.  Stop wasting money on all those little things they don’t care about.  It’s more for the parents than the kids.

Be honest with them if your funds can’t get everything they want.  I know a lot of parents struggle everyday.  And you wonder how you will get the kids the gifts they want.  Kids ask for it because they think you can afford it!  If you be honest with your kids before Christmas and let them know that you can’t afford certain items, (if you raised them right) they will understand and their expectations won’t be so big.  Then if you are able to get more, its a bonus.  I remember one year I really couldn’t afford to get them  a  lot, but they ALWAYS had great Christmases.  They were incredibly understanding which blew me away.  But after Christmas, once bills were paid, I splurged on them, because they understood.

In short, Christmas has been commercialized and marketed to make kids think its about the toys and the gifts when it’s really not.  It’s about the birth of our Lord and Savior.  It’s about giving to the needy, and it’s about rejoicing.  If your kids seem ungrateful, take them to any homeless shelter and let them see how excited those kids are who only get one toy!  We as parents are the culprits. We are the ones who spoil our kids with “things” and they don’t get the true meaning until the “things” aren’t involved.  So this year, don’t go broke on one day.  Babies won’t even know it’s Christmas new Moms.  They already have lots of toys they never play with.  lol.. But I know it’s hard to not buy them everything.  But that’s for you.. not them, because they don’t know.

Cherish the day, and let the kids know the true meaning of Christmas.  And if you can do something for a child who has nothing, ask your child to give away one toy to a child who won’t get anything. They will certainly understand the true meaning and the value of Christmas if they do.

Hugs & Kisses

The Real Mommie Teresa

Start your day on a Happy Note..

01 Tuesday Dec 2015

Posted by Teresa in Babies, Faith, Happy, Jobs, Life, mothers, Uncategorized

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Belief, change, happy, instincts, jobs, moods, Pharrell, sadness

I woke up this morning, and after my prayer, I went on Facebook.  I saw where people had died last night, and accidents, and sadness.  My heart then went to a sad place.  I had to go back in prayer and start all over.  Then it hit me… I will not be starting my day off with things that are not happy!  I turned on my “happy” music. That was the song “Happy” by Pharrell.  Then guess what, my mood changed!  I started dancing, clapping, and singing!!  My mood was adjusted so fast because of my instincts.  I knew where I was going with my mood, and I changed it.

  
We can all change our moods.  If you know something isn’t bringing you joy and happiness, change.  If it stresses you out, change. If it causes you to not sleep, change.  If you don’t see anything positive, change.  You get it right?  Change can change you!  It can make you happy, better, stronger!  Don’t let the “world” make you unhappy!  It’s crazy, because it seems like November and December are always my “change” months! I purge my phone, deleting negativity, purge my social media, deleting irrelevant.. I wondered why, then I realized that I refuse to start a New Year with something that does not make me happy!  And changes have been made!! LOL.. I’ll update ya later on those!  But I thought someone else would need this today.

So remember, if it’s not making you happy…CHANGE IT! It’s all up to you!

Hugs and Kisses

The Real Mommie Teresa

It’s Not Luck…It’s Favor!!

24 Tuesday Nov 2015

Posted by Teresa in Faith, Jobs, Life, Uncategorized, Uplifting

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IMG_9315Favor-defined as approval, or something you do for someone else.

With that being said, Christina and I was listening to Pastor Mike from NY today and he talked about how God has favor over your  life and I just wanted to share it in my words to help someone.

When you abide by God’s word, God has favor over you life. What is favor? Favor is giving you a gift that not everyone has.  Do you always seem to come out on top after you’ve had the worst things happen to you?  Have you ever had to work so hard, not feel appreciated, then you became really successful?  Have you been one second short of being in an accident or something “almost” happened to you, but it missed you? Did you leave a relationship only to find the love of your life?  Did you leave a job and immediately got a better job with a lot more money? If any of these things happened to you, and you thought it was luck, it was not luck, it was favor over your life!

God favors you when you do what’s right.  When you live a life that honors Him, He has favor over you life.  It doesn’t take living in a  church 7 days a week to honor God. God watches our every move and our actions.  If you are genuine with you actions toward others, God favors you.  And the favor is in “you”.  If you  sow the wind, you will reap a whirlwind.  Don’t let people steal your joy if you have favor over you life.  Because remember, the favor is in you, and it follows you.  If someone puts you out of their environment, remember, they just said goodbye to their favor.  They thought they were hurting you, but they only hurt themselves because the favor of that environment also leaves, because the favor is in you, and now you take that favor with you.  When people wonder why you always land on your feet, let them know, “your favored”!

You are a prisoner because you hold yourself captive when you are afraid of your gift of favor! When you KNOW, God has you..then you won’t be afraid of anything or anyone.  God puts you through the fire, so you can walk out on fire.  On fire as in, you are ready for anything..you have a  burning in your soul to light up the world..you are ON FIRE!  So don’t worry about a thing when you know you live right, you trust God, and you have FAVOR!! Favor is not luck, favor is favor!

Start living that gift of FAVOR God gave you!

Love and Hugs,

“The Real Mommie Teresa”

“Flowers Can’t Bloom in Dead Soil”

22 Sunday Nov 2015

Posted by Teresa in Faith, Life, mothers, Uncategorized, Uplifting

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Belief, blessing, dead soil, dead weight, faith, fear, Gifts, letting go, life, money, moving on, new life, promotion

Dead Soil
Helloo Everyone!!!

I’m back!  And I’m glad to be back. These JOBS(just over broke) will get you into them, and out of yourself.  When you know your passion, it’s what you always come back too, and writing is mine. So I’m back with more stories, more laughs, and more of The Real Mommie Teresa!  I’ll do some catch ups with Teresa blogs also, but today I want to talk about my topic….”Flowers can’t bloom in dead soil.”

I was listening to Periscope yesterday, yes Periscope, I’m on it..@teresacrawford, just in case you want to follow me.  I’ll be doing more of those soon too. 🙂 Well
Ms. LaToyia Jones,(Check her out) was on, and she talked about don’t quit before you start.  Another great topic, but during her discussion,  she made a reference that no flower will bloom if the soil is dead.  That took me to so many different places in life.  It was like I could just see the dead flower limping, and wondering what it would take to bring it back to life.  Then I hear it.. “new soil”.

To the point, when something has expired in your life, then the time is up.  That can be a job, a lover, a husband, a wife,  a car, a house, a friendship, or whatever.  When you’ve done all you can do to make something  work, and it’s not working, then maybe the soil is dead.  When the soil is dead, water doesn’t work, fertilizer doesn’t work, nothing works.  The only thing that will work, is to dump that soil, and replace it with new soil.  So what am I saying?  You already know. Get rid of what’s keeping your flower from blooming. When a beautiful flower is dead, it limps over, the colors fade, the leaves fall off, and the total appearance of the flower has changed.  That means, you look sad, you feel bad, you feel depressed, you’re angry, you don’t want to do anything productive, your spirit is dead.  Is anyone experiencing that?  If you are, then you need to dump that dead soil, and replace it with new, fresh soil!  With new fresh soil, you get revitalized, you get refreshed, your color comes back, you start feeling good about yourself, and you start to bloom!! Once  you start blooming, then you start growing, and you get stronger and more beautiful  That soil that was killing  you, is gone, and the new soil has brought you back to life.

New SoilThat’s life.. don’t let what is not for you keep holding you down. The only way you will flourish, is to not be afraid to make changes in your life.  That decision is NOT easy, but it has to happen.  If you keep doing what you are doing, you’ll keep getting what you are getting.  The only way you will get something different, is to do something different.  If you keep doing the same thing and expect different results, you’ll just see that flower slowing starting to limp and die  So today, replant that flower in some new and improves soil!  Help that flower bloom and blossom!!  Now is your season!!! God will reap your blessing as long as you sow.

A sower went out to sow.  And as he sowed, some seeds fell along the path, and the birds came and devoured them.  Other seeds fell on rocky ground, where they did not have much soil, and immediately they sprung up, since they had no depth of soil, but when the sun rose they were scorched.  And since they had no root, they withered away.  Other seeds fell among thorns and the thorns grew up and choked them.  Other seeds fell on good soil, and produced grain, some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty.  He who has ears, let him hear.  Matthew 13:3-9

That message just reiterates what I’m saying.  Be careful where you put your soil..the ground also needs to be ready for the soil.

As Always..

Love & Kisses,

The Real Mommie Teresa

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