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“I Can’t Breathe”

25 Sunday Sep 2016

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As I sat on the couch and watched my Dad in the hospital, with the oxygen in his nose, he would take these deep breaths, then he would pause before he would breath again. I would sit there and watch him, just to make sure he could breath. As I watched him, and I watched tv with all the protests in Charlotte, all I could think about was the phrase, “I can’t breath”. When it weights this heavy on my mind, I have to write.

“I can’t breathe”.. The 1st time was when my Dad told me my Mom died. I remember taking that deep breath in, and not letting one out…

“I can’t breath”… When I saw my Mom in the coffin and the glass covering her whole body..

“I can’t breathe”… When my Grandmother was dying with cancer and on her way to the hospital she said, this was going to be her last trip to the hospital because she knew she’d never come home again.

“I can’t breathe”.. When I found out RC had died in surgery from a car accident and my 1st born child would never get to see his father.

“I can’t breathe”.. When Jr. didn’t wake up and Nita told me to get home as soon as I can because my Brother had died.

You get my point? I can breathe never ends up with something good. Then I think about when a parent has to see their child gunned down in the streets. Not by a police, but by ANYONE!! I think about the wives who witness the murder of their husbands, I think about the men who are only trying to protect their families, or the women who are trying to protect their families. When you can’t breath, your chest hurts, your eyes fill with water, and you don’t know whether to run or be still, but it all hurts!

I can’t breath when I think about the injustice of society. I can’t breath when I think about how we’ve worked so hard to get to where we can all get along and “society” can rip us apart like paper. I can’t breath when we as MOMS have to bury our children too soon for nothing. I can’t breathe when I see racist hate because of the color of someone’s skin!  Not breathing hurts.!! The only cure for not breathing, is breathing! I pray for everyone to be able to breathe. Not breathing is a natural part of life that was made to take your breath away and it already hurts, but the unnecessary “I can’t breathe” has to stop. And once I finished writing this blog, my updated iWatch said “BREATHE’! So it’s also taking 1 minute for you to just take time from you day to breathe. How ironic. Look at your life, look at the people in your life. Look at who’s worth your breath, and those are the people that you fight for! Don’t settle for the injustice.  We’ve come to far to turn back now.  Breathe!

Love and Hugs,

The Real Mommie Teresa

 

 

 

My Dream Come True

27 Sunday Dec 2015

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  As a little girl at 13 years old, yes little girl. (Back then 13 you were still a little girl!!) I remember standing over my Mothers white casket, it had glass on top of it, and it showed her whole body. Almost like sleeping beauty. She had on a long white dress, pearl nail polish, and satin white shoes. Her hair was pulled back and her makeup was done flawless by my Aunt Flossie. She didn’t look dead. She looked sleep and she looked so at peace. She was beautiful. Not only was she beautiful dead, she was beautiful alive. She was the prettiest woman I ever knew. The love I had for her was an indescribable love. It was almost like a fairy tale love. You know the love that only comes once in a lifetime?  Well you can imagine how devistated I was when I saw that casket close, and watched them lower it into the ground and cover it with dirt. The absolute worst, most horrific day of my life! The pain was unbearable and I knew I had lost one thing I would never, ever get back in this life!! All I had was memories, and dreams of how we were, and who she was. I had lost my Best Friend! I prayed a lot. I missed all the Mom stuff growing up. I missed the love, the support, the talks, and the just being Mom. All the things I ever dreamed of, I missed.  

Years later after being a Mom of 2 amazing sons, I went to the doctor for a checkup and a refill on my birth control pills. And to my dismay, the doctor said I was pregnant!! Like almost 7 months!! Had no idea! No missed periods, no weight gain, nothing!!!!  I did NOT want anymore children. But now I was expecting a third, and then I found out it was a girl!  What a blessing. God protected that baby to make sure she got here!  Well that little girl was born and she carried a portion of my Mothers name. As a matter of fact, she looked like my Mom. She was perfect!  Then all the love I had inside from a Mother/Daughter prospective flood out into her. I gave her everything I missed with my Mom. She was my daughter, and she was my best friend. 

But not until she grew up, and a day like today, do I really understand who she is. She is my dream, except I’m the Mother and she’s me. She’s the me that wanted to take care of my Mother. She’s the me that was amazing and traveled and told the amazing stories.  She’s the me that sent beautiful gifts, and never let me feel unloved!  She’s giving me what I would have given to my Mom. I understand God’s purpose more today than I did when I was 13. I lost it all! But I was faithful and humble, and He gave it back to me. So God gave me a dream in you Christina. He is in you “Christ-Ina” and I never realized that until today.  I read every page of the book you sent me, and every page brought a joyful tear.  Because it’s so us!! We can see something and immediately laugh because we’re thinking the same thing…I can call you and you’ll be dialing me… I’ll be cramping and call you and you’re cramping..you share all your joys with me and I share mine with you. 

So today, this is for you. You are my Dream. You are the person that completed my life cycle. You are the gift God gave me back for my Mother, and I love you soooooo much. There are not enough words to tell you what you mean to me, and how you healed so much hurt that was in my heart. All I can say is “Christina, thank you for loving me” and “thank you God for loving me enough to make my dreams come true by giving me a chance to really know, A Mother’s Love through a daughter!!

And by all means, I love my boys!! My Men..My protectors!! They are all of that!! They make sure me and Christina are ok all the time and they are also my gifts!! However, this was about a little girl who lost her Mother. 

“Hugs, love & joyful tears”

The Real Mommie Teresa 


 

Your Kids Are Watching You

11 Friday Dec 2015

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 Last night Christina called me and said, “Mom, thanks for raising me not to be a snobbish, uppity, self-centered, woman!  I love you for raising me like you did!”  So I asked her, where was she and what crazy women did she see?  She said she went to a networking event in NY hosted by Hillary Clinton, and the older African American women who she used to think were amazing and looked up to, were  snobs!! She was really disappointed at their attitudes and personalities!  Which brought me here.

Parents, our kids look up to us. They watch everything we do. They look at how we talk to people, how we treat people, what we say to people, what we do for people, and they mimic our actions. If we are snobs, guess  what we are raising? Right…little snobs!  When you find young women who want to look up to you, and they realize you are only a fake, can you imagine how that makes them feel?  Our young generation needs strong mentors to look up to. They need someone to help them achieve a level higher than us.  We HAVE to be humble and realize we have eyes watching our every move. When you are all of sudden, too good to give back, then you are useless and the talents that God gave you, He will take them back because you aren’t using them for the good of Him. When you are snapping and acting a fool, going off on people, being too good for everything, complaining about everything and everybody, mad for no reason…remember, the kids are watching and they mimic your actions. So today, look at how you act and think…would want your child acting like you. If the answer is no, it’s not too late to change!!!

Hugs & Love

The Real Mommie Teresa

Don’t Give Santa All Your Money..

02 Wednesday Dec 2015

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Santa WalletWell it’s that time of year again.  Time for the parents to go broke to get the kids all these toys that they want from the TV commercials! Well I’ve been through that over 25 times (until they finished college) and I have some advice that could save you lots of money and heartache dealing with the children.  If your kids are adults, you’ll understand!

First of all, the kids need a limit of toys.  I know we want them to have more than what we had, but really.. we had maybe 2 toys!  So 3 toys would be more than what we had!  If you tell your kids they can get 5 toys, then you’ll see what’s really important to them.  That’s what you focus on.  Anything else would be a bonus.  How many times have they opened a gift and played with it once.  But stayed on the playstation for 10 days!  Not looking at anything else.  Stop wasting money on all those little things they don’t care about.  It’s more for the parents than the kids.

Be honest with them if your funds can’t get everything they want.  I know a lot of parents struggle everyday.  And you wonder how you will get the kids the gifts they want.  Kids ask for it because they think you can afford it!  If you be honest with your kids before Christmas and let them know that you can’t afford certain items, (if you raised them right) they will understand and their expectations won’t be so big.  Then if you are able to get more, its a bonus.  I remember one year I really couldn’t afford to get them  a  lot, but they ALWAYS had great Christmases.  They were incredibly understanding which blew me away.  But after Christmas, once bills were paid, I splurged on them, because they understood.

In short, Christmas has been commercialized and marketed to make kids think its about the toys and the gifts when it’s really not.  It’s about the birth of our Lord and Savior.  It’s about giving to the needy, and it’s about rejoicing.  If your kids seem ungrateful, take them to any homeless shelter and let them see how excited those kids are who only get one toy!  We as parents are the culprits. We are the ones who spoil our kids with “things” and they don’t get the true meaning until the “things” aren’t involved.  So this year, don’t go broke on one day.  Babies won’t even know it’s Christmas new Moms.  They already have lots of toys they never play with.  lol.. But I know it’s hard to not buy them everything.  But that’s for you.. not them, because they don’t know.

Cherish the day, and let the kids know the true meaning of Christmas.  And if you can do something for a child who has nothing, ask your child to give away one toy to a child who won’t get anything. They will certainly understand the true meaning and the value of Christmas if they do.

Hugs & Kisses

The Real Mommie Teresa

Start your day on a Happy Note..

01 Tuesday Dec 2015

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I woke up this morning, and after my prayer, I went on Facebook.  I saw where people had died last night, and accidents, and sadness.  My heart then went to a sad place.  I had to go back in prayer and start all over.  Then it hit me… I will not be starting my day off with things that are not happy!  I turned on my “happy” music. That was the song “Happy” by Pharrell.  Then guess what, my mood changed!  I started dancing, clapping, and singing!!  My mood was adjusted so fast because of my instincts.  I knew where I was going with my mood, and I changed it.

  
We can all change our moods.  If you know something isn’t bringing you joy and happiness, change.  If it stresses you out, change. If it causes you to not sleep, change.  If you don’t see anything positive, change.  You get it right?  Change can change you!  It can make you happy, better, stronger!  Don’t let the “world” make you unhappy!  It’s crazy, because it seems like November and December are always my “change” months! I purge my phone, deleting negativity, purge my social media, deleting irrelevant.. I wondered why, then I realized that I refuse to start a New Year with something that does not make me happy!  And changes have been made!! LOL.. I’ll update ya later on those!  But I thought someone else would need this today.

So remember, if it’s not making you happy…CHANGE IT! It’s all up to you!

Hugs and Kisses

The Real Mommie Teresa

A True Benefit of a Mother… Did you realize what you did??

16 Tuesday Dec 2014

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I'm not the creator of this photo...

I’m not the creator of this photo…

As I was talking to Christina the other day about people being around you all the time, it crossed my mind the role of a Mother. We as Moms really never think of what it really means to be a mother, but here’s some food for thought to every Mother.
As a Mother, you actually create a life. You watch and feel that life grow inside your body, and you begin to love that child before they even enter this world. As far as the child, that child literally turns into a human inside of you. They develop arms, legs, lungs, and a heart. They go from a fetus to a human right inside your body. They get to know your inside because it’s their home. As my son said in a poem, “I am one of 3 who has seen your soul. I slept to your heartbeat.” How deep is that? Have you really thought about your child has seen inside your body? They have actually laid next to your heart. They felt when your heart was going fast, and when it was going slow. They knew if something was wrong, by knowing your heart. They have actually seen your soul.
Then one day, it’s time to bring that child into the world. With that, your body is the only thing a child knows. They know you from the inside, and they finally get to see your face. The sound they have heard for 9 months, they can now put a face to it. I know we can all remember that first time we looked into our child’s face, but think of how that child felt then they saw our face for the first time. When they finally got a chance to get a kiss from you and be held in your arms. Then you answer to their every call and cry. You carry them wherever they need to go, you feed them when they are hungry, you change them when they can’t tell you they are wet. You basically become their world. They can’t do anything without you, and you get to a point that you can’t do anything without them. They now become your life.
Then they begin to talk and walk. They begin to tell you they love you. They kiss you, and they show you how much they appreciate you. But you begin to mold them into who they will become in life. That’s a tough job. Just think, this small fetus, that was once in your womb, is now growing up, and it’s your responsibility to assist them and encourage them to become a successful adult. It’s everything you do and teach them to do, that will make them who they are. It’s your job to make sure you teach them to be a respectful person in society, and to make the best out of life.
So it almost seems like you are a God to your child right? But think of how we were created by God. God gave us a gift that we don’t even recognize. That’s the gift to give life. That’s the gift to create, mold, and shape a person into who they will be. When you think of it, it’s a big responsibility because you might not do it right and mess up your child’s life! Are there rules? Nope. Can you master it? Nope. Do you know how they will turn out? Nope. But all you can do is be Mom. Give them the love, the attention, the knowledge they need to learn, and the will to succeed. We all won’t get it right, but we go the major part of it done, by carrying them in our bodies, and making sure we let them see our souls. There is nothing better than being a Mom. There’s no gift anyone can give you that can mean more than birthing a child. So this holiday season, think a little deeper than what a gift means. Think of the person that saw your soul, and slept to your heartbeat. Think of that child that you gave life, and the child that needed your life to live.
And if that doesn’t’ sink in, think of how God gave up HIS only child… For You.