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Who is “They” and who cares about what “They” Say!!!

14 Thursday Nov 2013

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This topic came to me last night.  It really kills me when someone says, “Well THEY said”.  Who is “They”?  Well personally “they” make me sick!!  You know “they” are the reason for bringing you down, and lifting you up.  One thing in life we all do is make mistakes. Yes, we all make mistakes and no, you aren’t perfect.  I haven’t met a perfect person yet.  But when anyone makes a mistake, the first thing “they” say is. I knew it.. I told you.. That’s what I expected… Y’all know how they are..   The nay-sayers like to see you down and want you to stay down.  But you know how to shut them up? By taking their comments to make you better!  Instead of us lifting each other up.. we constantly put each other down.  I’m saying we, because as I said, I’m not perfect either.

When I thought about this topic, the 1st thing came to my mind is when I was criticized by the “they’s”.  I can remember when I went to the Army, “they” said I wouldn’t make it through Basic Training.. Laugh at you “they’s!”  Then I went to Cosmetology School, and “they” said I couldn’t be the 1st black working in an all-white salon in Eatonton GA.  Thanks to Bonita Long for giving me a job, when a lot of her white clients said, “they “wouldn’t come back because a “black girl” was working there.  And guess what? Those same “theys” ended up being MY clients!!! Laugh at you “they’s”.  I moved to Atlanta with my 3 children, and “they” said, she’ll be back!! She can’t make it in Atlanta with 3 kids on her own. Well after being in Atlanta for 20 years, AND running, yes I said “running” multi-million dollar corporations.. Laugh at you “they’s!” And a double laugh to know that not only did I live there and work there, I got a Bachelor and a Master Degree while working AND raising 3 children on my own!! Triple laugh at you “they’s!”  I could go on and on, but I’m sure you all get the point by now. “They” have really helped me, and not hurt me, because I had a point to prove to “they”!

So to the young people today, don’t let “they say” make or break you!  Yes, you made a mistake, yes you dropped out of school, yes you have a baby, yes you screwed up and had to backtrack, yes you may have been to jail, but guess what?  Those mistakes will make you do even better in life.  You had a baby? So now there’s the motivation you didn’t have to get you to the next level. You have created  life, who now depends on you, and no one can tell ME that you don’t change when you have children. All of a sudden, we have that Lioness instinct.  We have that new-found hunt and hustle that comes from within, with survival in mind.  You have a reason to be great! God didn’t put you in a position to fail!  And that’s what will make you better.  You will have setbacks and challenges, but don’t ever fret over those.  Just keep doing the best that you can!

People want to see you fail, and that’s what “they” will say! I’m sure so many of us, who have struggled and done pretty good in life have a lot of “they” stories.   But young people laugh at the “theys!” Every time you hear gossip about what “they” say.. you say to yourself, or out loud.. LAUGH AT THE “THEYS”.. because when you do the greatness that is within you, “they” won’t even congratulate you! Because that’s not what “they” thought you would do!

I hope someone needs this and it helps you.  I wish I had someone to tell me about the “theys” when I was younger.  But I had to learn it on my own.  I worried about what “they” said, and little did I know, that God used “they” as my weapon of Mass Destruction. Every time I got a “they said”, it was giving me more ammunition on life! After a few years, I had enough ammo to fight a war, and win! So let this be ammo to some of you all!  Store the “theys” in your mind, and wait until you have success.  Then go back and you don’t have to say a thing… just LAUGH AT THE “THEYS”! LOL, LOL, LOL..

Now have a wonderful day!!!

Love and Hugs, from the “Real” Mommie Teresa

If I Knew Then, What I Know Now…

13 Wednesday Nov 2013

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So I was contemplating on whether or not to start a blog, but I always wait on answers from a higher power. I knew when the timing was right, I’d be ready. So that Lil Angel whispered, “you have so much to share”, and I do!! Lol. So that was my sign to get to work!  Now before I begin, I want Everyone to know, that these are “my” thoughts that I’m writing!  I’ve been through a lot in life, and I have a little wisdom about it. If you gain anything, good, if you get a laugh, great, and if you share, wonderful!  Comments will make it more entertaining, and if you have something to share, please do!

So my 1st official blog: If I knew then, what I know now.. what would be different.  The answer at the end will surprise you… So how many times have we made that statement?  Normally when we made a major screw up, or if our kids screwed up!  But what is it that you know now, that you didn’t know then?  We knew wrong from right didn’t we?  And if a few of you had parents like mine.. I’m sure you knew the difference. But did it really matter?  Let’s be honest, we knew right from wrong, but wrong seemed so much more fun at the time!! LOL. I can think of a number of times I had a choice, and I chose what I knew wasn’t right! Only because I knew that the most fun, was with the most wrong! If you’re laughing right now, or saying..”girrrl I know that’s right”, you feel me!!

Life was designed to be a mystery.  It wasn’t meant for us to know what it holds, what lies at the end, what’s in the middle, or how long we’ll live in it. What’s exciting and magical about life is, “what’s next?”  We go through so many changes in life to get to the “what’s next”.  What’s next is always the answer to good and bad.  If you’re having bad luck, you say, “what else can happen” or good luck, “what’s gonna happen next?’ Who knows.. “NOBODY”. I can recall saying so many times to my Baby Girl, if I knew then what I know now, we’d be rich!! But really..would we? What could I have done different? I would have had to complete the circle of life I’ve completed, to even begin to accomplish then what I have now.  In life, God puts us through a world storm.  We never know when a storm is coming, or how long the storm will last.  But when the storm is over, you look back at it and say..WOW.. Thank you!  But as soon as you think, you’ve gotten ahead, here comes a Tornado..again.. and guess what?  You survive it..again.. “Thank You!”

So do you ever wonder why we go through so much when we try to do the best we can? Well you can’t do the best you can, until you can go through the storm, and come out of it. Once you’ve been through a storm, and you had to fight the wind, rain, hail, all the debree  that comes along with it.. you’ve learned to fight, and you’ve become stronger, and wiser. Then you are a little more prepared for the next storm. The more storms you go through, the stronger you become! So in case I need to break down “storms”, they are things that happen in your life.. I lost my 1st love at age 13, that was my Mom. That was my 1st big storm, and I didn’t think I could survive it. But little did I know, I would become a Mini-Mom for my brothers and sisters and really understand unconditional love. I lost a true love at age 20, but I became a Mother to his son, and also my 1st son, who was my true, true love.. By going through a storm, God gives you something rewarding at the end. The bigger the storm, the greater the reward.

Now to answer the question I asked in the beginning.. If I knew then, what I know now, what would I change… Absolutely nothing!  Why? Because it took everything I knew then, to get me to where I am now.  If I had never been through anything, I wouldn’t know anything. Life is so funny, and God is the funniest comedian of them all.  Just when you think you have things figured out, there HE comes with another joke that will trip you out! So just live your life everyday, and expect the unexpected to always happen.  Because that is where you get your wisdom.

I hope you enjoyed my 1st blog.. I have so much to share, and my goal is to share life with you as much as I can. I want to send encouragagement to our young adults letting them know.. it does get hard.. but don’t give up. You’ll be rewareded for everything you go through as long as you do it right!

Until tomorrow..

Love and hugs from Mommie Teresa