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When the Trees Bend for You…

29 Thursday Jan 2015

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broken, discouraged, motivation, positivity, survivor

IMG_4702I was having a conversation with my friend and she said her Dad was preaching and said “When it’s your season, even the trees will bend!” When she said that, I just got chills all over my body! Because I hear God when He’s talking! So I took that as; there is a season for everything, and even though the trees will bend, they didn’t break. Sometimes we think that everything is going wrong. We feel that the odds are totally against us. You may think that we are planting seeds, but nothing is growing. But the message I got was, when it’s your time, and God feels you are ready, your garden will grow so fast and so big, that no one can stop you! All the seeds you have sown will blossom into wonderful fruit! Everything will happen your way, and “even the trees will bend to make or create a path for you!” Remember the word “bend” not break. Bending is like a Bamboo tree. A storm will bend a Bamboo almost an inch to the ground! But when the storm is over, that Bamboo tree bounces right back up! It didn’t break! Just like life, when storms come, they will bend you over, they will leave you frustrated, they will have you wondering if God even hears your prayers! Just remember, sometimes.. It’s just not your season, but your season WILL come! But in the bad times, remember that Bamboo… It will bend, but it won’t break. The trees will bend so you can make it through the storm to get to where your blessings are! The struggles are just a part of life.  When the trees bend, you can bend to..Bend on your knees andpray to let God know you are FIGHTER, a SURVIVOR, and you won’t break!  Don’t give up on your dreams, you’re closer than you think!

Love & Hugs

“The Real Mommie Teresa”

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Everything ain’t for Everybody

25 Sunday Jan 2015

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dreams, family, Love, money, struggles

As I look at Social Media and see everyone posti2015/01/img_4651.pngng their accomplishment, certificates, lifestyles, trips, homes, cars, beautiful children, wonderful marriages, and successful businesses, a sense of happiness fulfills me, and there’s a little voice inside me saying, “they did that!” Even if I don’t know that person, I still click on that like button because in life, I love to see people live their lives and succeed.  It means that they’ve been thru that storm, and they made it out!! But on the other hand, you get the other people that ain’t happy about anyone doing anything!  They don’t like what you’re doing, they’re jealous about what other people have, and they have that misery in their life that doesn’t allow them to be happy.  Guess what? Eveythang ain’t for everybody.  They still have that storm to go thru before they get to their rainbow.  Realize that in order to get thru the storm, you may need to see what’s on the other side of the storm. You may need to have a goal to reach.  You may need to see what it looks like from an airplane flying over the Swiss Alps, or what a S63 Mercedes Benz looks like, or what a designer loft looks like, or what name brand perfume you can buy, or what nice restaurants you can go to for dinner, or what island you can’t wait to get to!  Don’t look at someone’s accomplishments and hate on them, look at them and increase you dreams!! YOU can have ANYTHANG, yes anythang, your heart desires, but it takes WORK!  Ain’t nobody giving you nothing you don’t deserve!  So instead of not being happy for someone, send them a message and ask them, what did you do to get there? What can I do? Tell me about that, and congratulate them!  They did it and so can you! If it ain’t your time yet..Rush your time to get here!  Only YOU can make that happen!  How do I know?? Maannn, if y’all only knew my story, you’d understand!

Love & Hugs

“The Real Mommie Teresa”

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Always Take Time to Laugh…

24 Saturday Jan 2015

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family, laughter, Love, mothers, stress

This world is mean, cruel, busy, stressful and crazy!! If you let life suck you into its trap, you’ll be in a state of misery forever!! Every day consist of 24 hours. Then it starts all over. If you don’t get it right in 24 hours, guess what? It comes back the next day!! Laugh at your failures because you have a chance to do it again!! Laugh at your success because you finally got it right!! Life is fun, loving, compassionate, and daring. Life is made to live it, love it, and laugh through the good and bad times!! Laugh a little!
Hugs & Love
“The Real Mommie Teresa”

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Ladies, Don’t Be Afraid to be CONFIDENT…

23 Friday Jan 2015

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black men, black women, Confident women, intimidation, Love, single moms, support

Michelle-FlexingAs I was walking thru the dealership yesterday, a brother stopped me and said, “let me tell you what I see in you?” So I’m all ears, like what? He says, “you have the most confident walk of any woman I’ve seen. You seem to be fearless, confident, and not a care in the world, and happy”! Then he said, “I be all black men run when they see you?!” So now that he’s gotten my attention, I was like “really, and why do you think that is? Well he said “Most black men run from women who are confident and we see that as too much of a challenge, or high-maintenance. So most black men will not talk to you.”

Well now to me.. “Yes I’m confident, happy, and not afraid. I show it in my walk, my talk, my smile and my style. I’ll never dumb down for a man, or a job or anything else in life! I also won’t accept what isn’t right for me. If a man is intimidated, then that only means he’s not ready for me anyway. And no it’s not cocky, it’s confident. What you don’t see is my history. I’m independent by “situation” not by choice. My job as a Mom, (ie LEADER) was to be confident, happy, and strong. That way my children will lead by example. My job was to buy it, cook it, and clean it and take care of it. “It” meaning everything. All that was MY situation, not my choice. Situation is because of mistakes “I” made in life.

What I, or hopefully no woman will do is settled for someone who does not deserve them. When you work hard, and you have lived your life, then don’t accept anything or anyone that can’t accept you. God didn’t take you through everything you went thru to let you end up with someone who’s not worthy of you. Men, I’m not saying all “black” men can’t handle a strong woman. We as women WANT you to be the man! We want you to be the head of the household, but we also want you to know that WE GOT YOUR BACK! We are strong because that’s our nature. I was never taught to be submissive and it’s not a trait I can pretend to have. I am who I am, and I’m ok with it. But life lesson, walk like a boss, talk like a boss, think like a boss!! Bosses attract Bosses!! Find your Boss!!

Hopefully no feathers are ruffled, but I just wanted to put it out there!

Love and Hugs

“The Real Mommie Teresa”

The Space Between Then and Now

21 Wednesday Jan 2015

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Being a Mother, children, Growth. wisdom, life, Love, mother, parenting

IMG_4601Today I created this picture with my “artistic” self for the kids. And it’s amazing how you do something then you look back at it and you “see it”. In this picture, it reminded me of the past. It also let me see that the most important part of this picture is the space between the pictures. That space reminds me of the struggles I had being a single parent responsible for the lives of these children. It reminded me of the hard work, the tears, the fears, and the happiness. It reminded me of what it took to get them from ages 1,3 and 5- to ages 26, 28 and 30. 25 Years is in that space!! It brought laughter thinking about the funny things they did and said, and it brought a sense of pride when I think of their accomplishments. The football games, basketball games, cheerleading events, and the house full of kids all the time. The moments in the space between the pictures are the moments that brought them to where they are today.

So today, I say THANK YOU GOD for the space! Today I feel like you took me through all you did so I can look back and say, Wow! As parents, remember these times. Remember that the lives of those kids are in your hands. It’s the greatest feeling in the world to see them grow and achieve their dreams. So live life like it’ll be over tomorrow, laugh like the funny story never ends, and love like you’ll never see anyone tomorrow!

Love & Hugs

“The Real Mommie Teresa”

FAMILY is…Everything

04 Sunday Jan 2015

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FamilyToday is a day that it’s on my heart to remind everyone of what family is, because it seems as though society has forgotten.  I can remember when my Great Grandmother, who we called Ou’ Ma (maybe was supposed to be Our Ma, but we were country) used to have sleeping spells.  She would go to sleep and no one could wake her up.  When it happened, EVERYBODY showed up!! I mean all her children, grands, and great grands, cousins and neighbors.  We would all be right there for each other, and we would pray together, cook together and just be there for each other as a FAMILY!  When Ou Ma woke up, we were all there at her bedside, at her house and she saw each of us.  We all told her how much we loved her and we just supported each other.

What happened? Where is the family love now? Why is it that your friends have to be closer to you than your family? Did we, or are we losing our families to society? There are so many things that are turning us against our families now.  It’s ok to grow and expand, but remember God wrote the 10 commandments for a purpose. Honor thy Father and thy Mother; that thy days shall be long. Some people only WISH they had a Mother and Father.  I know sometimes family pisses you off, but if ANYTHING ever happens to you, guess whose going to be there..FAMILY!  Co-workers, so called friends, associates, will be there temporarily, but they will eventually have to take care of “their” families.  And who will you have? I know our families are the ones who sometimes get on our nerves more than anyone, but thats what family does! They worry the crap out of us because they are the ones who will be honest with us about life. They are the ones who will tell you what is on their mind, but still not lose any love for you. They are the biggest critics, but they are also the ones that will give you the biggest praise when you accomplish a goal. They talk about each other, but they will beg, borrow and steal to get you what you need.  We cry together, we fight together and we love each other.  Yes we get mad, but we can’t lose the love of family.

When family gets so caught up with organizations, and affiliations that they forget where they came from, who was there for them, and who got them to where they are today, don’t worry, God will bring you back home.  He’ll let you do your thing, but when you need someone to take care of you and be there for you, you’ll know the meaning of FAMILY! You’ll understand that your family will be with you until you take your last breath. And when God calls you home, guess who’ll be there beside God, with arms open waiting for you…FAMILY!!

So today this is for “my” family, “your” family and every family that has forgotten the real meaning of what a family is.  This a reminder to my family today, remember who we are, where we came from. We have a  strong family bond, and we love each other so very much.  Although we can be crazy, wacky, off the chain, sinners, holy, rebels, smokers, drinkers, preachers and teachers.  We are family!! No one should come before that.  I love you all more than life and it saddens me when we aren’t as close as we used to be. Think of Ou Ma and Pye. Think of what they built, and we need to build up on that.  Don’t let society tear us apart.

Everyone take notes and keep the family alive.  It’s all we have!

I love you all and Happy Sunday!

“The Real Mommie Teresa”

Rear View Mirror Sunset..The past..

28 Sunday Dec 2014

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2015, growth, past, reflections

SunsetYesterday I looked in my rearview mirror and I saw the sun setting in the background. I started thinking all kinds of thoughts. It was like there was an epiphany of my past year.  The sun was setting and I could clearly see the year going away and the new sun bringing a new day and a new year. Then I reflected on this year and realized how amazing this year has been!  Before I go into a new year, I have to give God all the glory and praise for all He has done this year! Turning 50, half a century and celebrated it with 19 of the most incredible people in my life in Jamaica, was amazing! Watching my Baby Girl land her dream job, amazing! Seeing Tyrell act as the leading role in an Independent film in Chicago, amazing!  Seeing RC get to where he’s trying to be in life, amazing.  To see Tyrell propose to the love of his life and welcoming Lanie into our family, amazing.  To see Christina get her own place in NY, amazing! To go from Honda Sale to Mercedes Sales, amazing!  To watch my Daddy turn 72, amazing! The closeness of my special cousins (too many to name.. Darrell, Shawn, Tori, Tiki, Cheeko, Gail..etc :)), amazing! The clarity of my mind, and the freedom of bonds that  God has delivered me through are making me who I am.  I always ask why God does some things, but at the end of the year when I look in that rearview mirror, He shows me the answers.

So while you all are getting ready to celebrate bringing in a New Year, take a look back on your good, bad, ugly.  Look back on the gifts you received, they gifts you gave, the new friends you have, the old friends that were removed.  Look back on the love ones that God called home, and look at the ones He healed, and they new babies HE delivered. Look at the job you lost, and the better job you gained.  Look at the relationship that you finally let go of, and look at the wonderful person God has brought into your life now.  Look at the time you spent with someone who didn’t care, and look at the time someone makes for you now.  Look at how your children have grown. Look at the hardship they went thru and how they overcame it and doing great now!  Look at your family and how it’s growing.  There is so much to look back at and say THANK YOU!! Once you thank God for all HE has given you, taken you through, and grew you…then just wait until what HE has in store for you in the New Year!!!  So look back, so you can GROW forward!

Love you guys, thanks for reading my blogs, and if I don’t get another in before the New Year, I’ll see you in 2015!!

Love & Hugs

“The REAL MOMMIE TERESA”

A True Benefit of a Mother… Did you realize what you did??

16 Tuesday Dec 2014

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abortion, babies, baby boy, baby girl, being pregnant, blessing, children, embryo, faith, family, giving birth, giving life, God, having a baby, Love, loving a child, Prayer, pregnancy

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As I was talking to Christina the other day about people being around you all the time, it crossed my mind the role of a Mother. We as Moms really never think of what it really means to be a mother, but here’s some food for thought to every Mother.
As a Mother, you actually create a life. You watch and feel that life grow inside your body, and you begin to love that child before they even enter this world. As far as the child, that child literally turns into a human inside of you. They develop arms, legs, lungs, and a heart. They go from a fetus to a human right inside your body. They get to know your inside because it’s their home. As my son said in a poem, “I am one of 3 who has seen your soul. I slept to your heartbeat.” How deep is that? Have you really thought about your child has seen inside your body? They have actually laid next to your heart. They felt when your heart was going fast, and when it was going slow. They knew if something was wrong, by knowing your heart. They have actually seen your soul.
Then one day, it’s time to bring that child into the world. With that, your body is the only thing a child knows. They know you from the inside, and they finally get to see your face. The sound they have heard for 9 months, they can now put a face to it. I know we can all remember that first time we looked into our child’s face, but think of how that child felt then they saw our face for the first time. When they finally got a chance to get a kiss from you and be held in your arms. Then you answer to their every call and cry. You carry them wherever they need to go, you feed them when they are hungry, you change them when they can’t tell you they are wet. You basically become their world. They can’t do anything without you, and you get to a point that you can’t do anything without them. They now become your life.
Then they begin to talk and walk. They begin to tell you they love you. They kiss you, and they show you how much they appreciate you. But you begin to mold them into who they will become in life. That’s a tough job. Just think, this small fetus, that was once in your womb, is now growing up, and it’s your responsibility to assist them and encourage them to become a successful adult. It’s everything you do and teach them to do, that will make them who they are. It’s your job to make sure you teach them to be a respectful person in society, and to make the best out of life.
So it almost seems like you are a God to your child right? But think of how we were created by God. God gave us a gift that we don’t even recognize. That’s the gift to give life. That’s the gift to create, mold, and shape a person into who they will be. When you think of it, it’s a big responsibility because you might not do it right and mess up your child’s life! Are there rules? Nope. Can you master it? Nope. Do you know how they will turn out? Nope. But all you can do is be Mom. Give them the love, the attention, the knowledge they need to learn, and the will to succeed. We all won’t get it right, but we go the major part of it done, by carrying them in our bodies, and making sure we let them see our souls. There is nothing better than being a Mom. There’s no gift anyone can give you that can mean more than birthing a child. So this holiday season, think a little deeper than what a gift means. Think of the person that saw your soul, and slept to your heartbeat. Think of that child that you gave life, and the child that needed your life to live.
And if that doesn’t’ sink in, think of how God gave up HIS only child… For You.

RE: A Message Today

07 Sunday Dec 2014

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abuse, blessing, children, church, confidence, divorce, drug abuse, faith, family, fear, freedom, future, God, happiness, Holy Spirit, life, marriage, money, Prayer

I visited a church here in Charlotte today and the Preacher spoke from Psalm 145.  A song of praise of David. (Ironically my lil Cousin David got baptized in Ga today also, congrats David!!).  Well he talked about a divine comeback.  And I’m just reiterating in short-term what I think we all need to hear.  We all pray, and we ask God for what we want.  We wait to see what God says, but most of the time, we don’t hear the answer because it’s not what we want it to be.  When you pray, and listen, then you can hear where God will lead you, but when you pray, and you think that God is giving you what you want, then you really don’t hear Him, you just assume that He will give you what you pray for.  God sometimes says NO.  When He says no, you don’t hear that.  You go out and make that mistake and then you want forgiveness.

When God leads you to unknown territory, He has a purpose for you.  Even though you may not agree, or you may not know what the outcome will be, He does.  When He removes people, cars, money, jewelry, friends, or anything from your life, He’s getting you ready for what HE has for you.  If God ask you to give up all your riches, would you?  If HE did, it would be because He has something greater for you.  I truly believe that.  God will take ALL you have, break you down to nothing, and test your faith.  If you can worship and praise HIM when you have nothing, then He will give you everything.  I know my faith has been challenged, but I believe in HIM and I know that  where He leads me, I will go.  Once you get that understanding of who HE is, and the true power HE has, then you will understand His word, and His works.

So in closing the Preacher said to say goodbye to all the things that are holding you back from your blessings.  Goodbye bad relationships, goodbye abusive relationships, goodbye to abusive behavior, goodbye to struggling, goodbye to being broke, goodbye to anything causing harm.  And stop introducing yourself as who you used to be, such as, I’m a divorcee, I’m a recovering addict, I’m a felon, I’m a struggle mother.  Introduce yourself as who you are now, not who you used to be.  Let the past be the past.  He brought you through it to make you better, not to relive that situation over and over again.   Just as I needed to hear this and I definitely live by this, I wanted to share it with you all.

So be blessed,

LOVE, HUGS AND KISSES

“The Real Mommie Teresa

Celebrate your Children

25 Tuesday Nov 2014

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Celebrate your Children.

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