Monthly Archives: December 2015

Men..We Need You!! 

30 Wednesday Dec 2015

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I’m always blogging about us women, today I’m gonna do a special day for the “Men” that are doing the daggone thang!! If this is you..keep reading!!  If it’s not..read anyway, you need to hear this. 

To our men, we love you!! We love you and we respect you! We give you sons and daughters to protect, and to develop them into who they are supposed to be. We give you our hearts and our souls. All we ask in return is to give us back what we give you. Is it possible? Yes it is. I’m not a man basher to say men ain’t taking care of their responsibility, because some men are handling business! Some men are truly providers and protectors! Some men want the same thing some women want, to be happily ever after. But I’m gonna say this, just like some men, some women aren’t worth the happily ever after. Yes ladies I said “some”. We all look for a mate that is compatible to us. So you have to look at your strengths and your weaknesses and find someone who compliments them.  
To the single Fathers..welcome to our world! You get it! To be the sole parent who has to do everything, it’s tuff! You DO NOT have a life! You DO NOT have the right to be sick, or give up! Your one job became 3!! But the instincts of providing for a life kicks in, and you then understand, by any means necessary. You then have lived half the life of a woman. 
Men, God made us for you. He took one of your ribs and created us. He meant for us to be by your side and support you, love you, bear fruit for you. He gave us the honor to give life. To create a life “with you”! To have two souls come together to create a miracle. He allows us to come dang near death to bring In a life that “YOU” helped create. Yes I said dang near death…before epidural and all them pain meds..childbirth is the closest pain to death!! And I know!! And we do that for and with YOU! And men, while we are carrying your child, your child hears you, knows your voice also. You’re the one that makes Mom’s heart beat faster, you are the one who makes Mom’s blood pressure go up, you’re the one who can change all her moods in a matter of minutes. And yes, that child knows you!! 
So men that are taking care of us…thank you! Men that love us.. Thank you!! Men that provide for us and our children..thank you!! Men who aren’t afraid to be honest and give your heart..thank you! Men that are being loyal to their women and not afraid to tell the world..thank you! Men that are being men..thank you! We need you! We need you with us!! We need you out of jail, we need you drug free, we need you working, we need you to be role models to our sons, we need you to protect our sons from police and teach them the laws! We need you to teach our boys to be men! That’s what we need!! And to those that are doing all that…if no one ever said thank you.. The Real Mommie Teresa says, THANK YOU AND I LOVE YOU!! I pray for you everyday and if you aren’t there yet, my prayer is that this will touch you and let you know how we feel!
  Love & Hugs

The Real Mommie Teresa

A New Year to Discover a New U!!

28 Monday Dec 2015

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  Ladies, so as the year ends, I see lots of post about loneliness and spending another New Year’s Eve alone, well as I always say, I’m no expert in the relationship arena, but I can tell you how to appreciate “YOU”! Keep reading…
Some women feel like you need a man to make you complete. Well in God’s cycle of life, a man is intended to close the circle, but not ANY man!! What you need to do is look at yourself, look at your character, and look at your character flaws. Yes we all have flaws, but we can be flawless by realizing what they are and making adjustment. Now is it easy? Nope!! But you have to really know what it is you want, and don’t settle for anything less. Don’t waste your time with a man who isn’t looking for what you are. If y’all ain’t headed in the same direction, then somebody needs to do a U turn!! Because now all you’re about to do is keep driving down one-way street! Value your worth and don’t accept anything less!! 
Our problem is God gave us this big ole heart to love freely and unconditionally. But we have to learn when to open it and when to close it. It can’t be opened for every person you meet. My motto is, I open the heart until I see that it’s the only heart opened. Then I shut it down. Because I won’t let it get broken by someone who isn’t worthy. Y’all know I always got a story. Lol. Do I want a happily ever after? Sure I do, but that’s exactly what I want. Not a happy today, sad tomorrow, mad the next day, then lonely the day after. The older we get the harder it gets to find a man that is ready for your life. As maturity hits, guess what? You’re more picky and you can be!! We’ve been thru all the bullcrap life had to throw at us! Been thru the drama, the struggle, the hardships! And guess what? Not trying to do that now!! So be careful what you looking for because it may not be what you want!  
So this year, ask God for what you want, and also ask him to remove what isn’t for you in your life. And if you trust him.. He will! Did I ask for that almost perfect man? Nope, I didn’t. Why? Because I want to make sure I’m as close to perfect to be able to meet his need as well as he can meet mine. So when you’re lonely, look at yourself and ask, if you were a man, would you want someone like you? If the answer is no, why? And what needs to change. No one knows you like you know you. 
Love and Hugs
The Real Mommie Teresa

My Dream Come True

27 Sunday Dec 2015

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  As a little girl at 13 years old, yes little girl. (Back then 13 you were still a little girl!!) I remember standing over my Mothers white casket, it had glass on top of it, and it showed her whole body. Almost like sleeping beauty. She had on a long white dress, pearl nail polish, and satin white shoes. Her hair was pulled back and her makeup was done flawless by my Aunt Flossie. She didn’t look dead. She looked sleep and she looked so at peace. She was beautiful. Not only was she beautiful dead, she was beautiful alive. She was the prettiest woman I ever knew. The love I had for her was an indescribable love. It was almost like a fairy tale love. You know the love that only comes once in a lifetime?  Well you can imagine how devistated I was when I saw that casket close, and watched them lower it into the ground and cover it with dirt. The absolute worst, most horrific day of my life! The pain was unbearable and I knew I had lost one thing I would never, ever get back in this life!! All I had was memories, and dreams of how we were, and who she was. I had lost my Best Friend! I prayed a lot. I missed all the Mom stuff growing up. I missed the love, the support, the talks, and the just being Mom. All the things I ever dreamed of, I missed.  

Years later after being a Mom of 2 amazing sons, I went to the doctor for a checkup and a refill on my birth control pills. And to my dismay, the doctor said I was pregnant!! Like almost 7 months!! Had no idea! No missed periods, no weight gain, nothing!!!!  I did NOT want anymore children. But now I was expecting a third, and then I found out it was a girl!  What a blessing. God protected that baby to make sure she got here!  Well that little girl was born and she carried a portion of my Mothers name. As a matter of fact, she looked like my Mom. She was perfect!  Then all the love I had inside from a Mother/Daughter prospective flood out into her. I gave her everything I missed with my Mom. She was my daughter, and she was my best friend. 

But not until she grew up, and a day like today, do I really understand who she is. She is my dream, except I’m the Mother and she’s me. She’s the me that wanted to take care of my Mother. She’s the me that was amazing and traveled and told the amazing stories.  She’s the me that sent beautiful gifts, and never let me feel unloved!  She’s giving me what I would have given to my Mom. I understand God’s purpose more today than I did when I was 13. I lost it all! But I was faithful and humble, and He gave it back to me. So God gave me a dream in you Christina. He is in you “Christ-Ina” and I never realized that until today.  I read every page of the book you sent me, and every page brought a joyful tear.  Because it’s so us!! We can see something and immediately laugh because we’re thinking the same thing…I can call you and you’ll be dialing me… I’ll be cramping and call you and you’re cramping..you share all your joys with me and I share mine with you. 

So today, this is for you. You are my Dream. You are the person that completed my life cycle. You are the gift God gave me back for my Mother, and I love you soooooo much. There are not enough words to tell you what you mean to me, and how you healed so much hurt that was in my heart. All I can say is “Christina, thank you for loving me” and “thank you God for loving me enough to make my dreams come true by giving me a chance to really know, A Mother’s Love through a daughter!!

And by all means, I love my boys!! My Men..My protectors!! They are all of that!! They make sure me and Christina are ok all the time and they are also my gifts!! However, this was about a little girl who lost her Mother. 

“Hugs, love & joyful tears”

The Real Mommie Teresa 


 

Your Kids Are Watching You

11 Friday Dec 2015

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 Last night Christina called me and said, “Mom, thanks for raising me not to be a snobbish, uppity, self-centered, woman!  I love you for raising me like you did!”  So I asked her, where was she and what crazy women did she see?  She said she went to a networking event in NY hosted by Hillary Clinton, and the older African American women who she used to think were amazing and looked up to, were  snobs!! She was really disappointed at their attitudes and personalities!  Which brought me here.

Parents, our kids look up to us. They watch everything we do. They look at how we talk to people, how we treat people, what we say to people, what we do for people, and they mimic our actions. If we are snobs, guess  what we are raising? Right…little snobs!  When you find young women who want to look up to you, and they realize you are only a fake, can you imagine how that makes them feel?  Our young generation needs strong mentors to look up to. They need someone to help them achieve a level higher than us.  We HAVE to be humble and realize we have eyes watching our every move. When you are all of sudden, too good to give back, then you are useless and the talents that God gave you, He will take them back because you aren’t using them for the good of Him. When you are snapping and acting a fool, going off on people, being too good for everything, complaining about everything and everybody, mad for no reason…remember, the kids are watching and they mimic your actions. So today, look at how you act and think…would want your child acting like you. If the answer is no, it’s not too late to change!!!

Hugs & Love

The Real Mommie Teresa

A Happy Place

08 Tuesday Dec 2015

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  Have you ever been at a point in life where you feel like life is just great? It’s funny when you’re happy, and people can see the happiness in you. When you lose your joy, it shows in everything you do. The way you talk, walk, dress, and act toward other people.  When you’re not happy, you attract people to you who are in a place where you are. When you’re in a happy place, you attract happy people. It’s strange how that works out, and how the body can show emotions. People want to be around someone who has really good vibes and are emotionally stable. So I challenge you to take a few pictures of yourself on a day you are really happy, then look back at a day you weren’t happy and see if you can see the happiness radiate from within yourself. 

God gave us all an internal light to shine so others can see it. It draws people to you. It lets them know, you’re one of the chosen ones, and God has you. So find your light and let it shine. When you find your happy place, no one and nothing can really steal your joy. God has you and He has control.  I have the attitude of “won’t He do it”!  And I ain’t going to let no one steal my joy! 

Today I pledge, I’m done with drama. If it doesn’t make ME happy, I’m not draining my emotions. The feelings of happiness gives you energy. It doesn’t drain you. If it’s takes negative energy…lose me with it!! 😁.  Being happy is too easy. There’s a simple solution. If it doesn’t make you happy.. Let it go.  See if your happiness returns. If it does, then that problem was stealing your joy. 

Hugs and love,

The Real Mother Teresa

Don’t Give Santa All Your Money..

02 Wednesday Dec 2015

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Santa WalletWell it’s that time of year again.  Time for the parents to go broke to get the kids all these toys that they want from the TV commercials! Well I’ve been through that over 25 times (until they finished college) and I have some advice that could save you lots of money and heartache dealing with the children.  If your kids are adults, you’ll understand!

First of all, the kids need a limit of toys.  I know we want them to have more than what we had, but really.. we had maybe 2 toys!  So 3 toys would be more than what we had!  If you tell your kids they can get 5 toys, then you’ll see what’s really important to them.  That’s what you focus on.  Anything else would be a bonus.  How many times have they opened a gift and played with it once.  But stayed on the playstation for 10 days!  Not looking at anything else.  Stop wasting money on all those little things they don’t care about.  It’s more for the parents than the kids.

Be honest with them if your funds can’t get everything they want.  I know a lot of parents struggle everyday.  And you wonder how you will get the kids the gifts they want.  Kids ask for it because they think you can afford it!  If you be honest with your kids before Christmas and let them know that you can’t afford certain items, (if you raised them right) they will understand and their expectations won’t be so big.  Then if you are able to get more, its a bonus.  I remember one year I really couldn’t afford to get them  a  lot, but they ALWAYS had great Christmases.  They were incredibly understanding which blew me away.  But after Christmas, once bills were paid, I splurged on them, because they understood.

In short, Christmas has been commercialized and marketed to make kids think its about the toys and the gifts when it’s really not.  It’s about the birth of our Lord and Savior.  It’s about giving to the needy, and it’s about rejoicing.  If your kids seem ungrateful, take them to any homeless shelter and let them see how excited those kids are who only get one toy!  We as parents are the culprits. We are the ones who spoil our kids with “things” and they don’t get the true meaning until the “things” aren’t involved.  So this year, don’t go broke on one day.  Babies won’t even know it’s Christmas new Moms.  They already have lots of toys they never play with.  lol.. But I know it’s hard to not buy them everything.  But that’s for you.. not them, because they don’t know.

Cherish the day, and let the kids know the true meaning of Christmas.  And if you can do something for a child who has nothing, ask your child to give away one toy to a child who won’t get anything. They will certainly understand the true meaning and the value of Christmas if they do.

Hugs & Kisses

The Real Mommie Teresa

Start your day on a Happy Note..

01 Tuesday Dec 2015

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I woke up this morning, and after my prayer, I went on Facebook.  I saw where people had died last night, and accidents, and sadness.  My heart then went to a sad place.  I had to go back in prayer and start all over.  Then it hit me… I will not be starting my day off with things that are not happy!  I turned on my “happy” music. That was the song “Happy” by Pharrell.  Then guess what, my mood changed!  I started dancing, clapping, and singing!!  My mood was adjusted so fast because of my instincts.  I knew where I was going with my mood, and I changed it.

  
We can all change our moods.  If you know something isn’t bringing you joy and happiness, change.  If it stresses you out, change. If it causes you to not sleep, change.  If you don’t see anything positive, change.  You get it right?  Change can change you!  It can make you happy, better, stronger!  Don’t let the “world” make you unhappy!  It’s crazy, because it seems like November and December are always my “change” months! I purge my phone, deleting negativity, purge my social media, deleting irrelevant.. I wondered why, then I realized that I refuse to start a New Year with something that does not make me happy!  And changes have been made!! LOL.. I’ll update ya later on those!  But I thought someone else would need this today.

So remember, if it’s not making you happy…CHANGE IT! It’s all up to you!

Hugs and Kisses

The Real Mommie Teresa